Children or G.children - who do you care for most?

When I looked at Mail online Nannynoo was not mentioned in the bits published so I am a bit confused as to whether I have missed part of the article. Either way I am also somewhat surprised that it can be circulated as a screen shot or whatever - with GN names, a opposed to just quotes without attributing

It's only on Mail Online and they have only done a screenshot of 5 responses. Only 55 people have commented (often 2,000 or more comments are recorded for big stories) and the last comment was 5 hours ago. I am a regular on Mail Online and this has gone practically unnoticed so no-one should panic.

How sad you've been left feeling this way.
Approach GNHQ. Change your name. Be very circumspect when you post again. Given the chance, those who offered much-needed support will continue to do that. Those who know your story will pick up on a few subtle hints.
So many well-wishers - don't act hastily and lose their support.

nannynoo, no one is going to blame you for anything. We’re all behind you, and I hope Admin can sort this out without you having to leave.

Gosh Nannymoo we all do it, get interested in a subject and totally forget the nasty way this is passed around
Don’t leave change your name

No one here will slag you off nannynoo. I hope all goes well with you and your DGS.

Talk to admin nannynoo, I hope they can help and protect your identity. No lectures from me, no one will 'slag you off', my heart goes out to you, I'm so sorry and wish you well.

Oh Nannynoo. I'm so sorry. I dont know what to say. X

OMFG my fault I got sucked into this debate and shared some very private information but I had NO IDEA there was a risk it would be printed in the Daily Ruddy Mail

I have to leave this whole site immediately and silly silly me for being so desperate for support I let it all out on here

I just hope admin can remove all my posts and what a horrid lesson I have learnt when I am already having a REALLY INCREDIBLY rough time and could do without this worry on top of it

Please no lectures on internet safety as I had no idea it would end up in the Daily Mail and am SHOCKED AS HELL

Thanks SO much to those who offered me some wonderful support on here but I HAVE to leave now this has happened and I honestly had no idea there was a risk these posts would end up in the TABLOID NEWSPAPERS

Any way you can slag me off for it behind my back now if you like but I am off now and have to leave

I Love them all ...it spreads rather than being "shared out"

Grans have not, in fact, "engaged in a debate", on the subject. Someone asked the question and a few people have replied - nobody put one far above the other and no-one made an argument of it. The controversy was invented by the DM, as usual. Some journalist thinks to him or herself, "What can we stir up today between the generations? Ah, I know - children vs grandchildren!"

Who gets more attention depends who is in most need of TLC at any given time, but the LOVE is constant and equal for all of them. Surely that is true for all grandparents? Just as the question "Which of your children do you love most?" ought to get the same answer.

I don't like the thought that this conversation is being published in the Daily Mail, and I hope that any reader or journalist who is directed here sees my post and reads it. If that newspaper wishes to poll its readers on whether they care more for their grandchildren than their children, they should do the work themselves of constructing a questionnaire, collecting answers ,and having a reputable journalist make conclusions. Cheap and shoddy journalism!!

I love all mine.

Hate the Daily Mail though !!

Here's the link:

femail/article-4965522/Grands-engage-debate-loving-grandchildren-more.html

Have just seen that this thread is now on-line in the Daily Mail, they have copied messages and posters user names. I was quite surprised as I know it’s been mentioned that discussions weren’t private but didn’t realise they would be used in such a way.

Love your explanation Absent.

Hi Franbern, I totally 'get' what you are saying. I love all my grandchildren to bits (now have ten). They are really close to me but sometimes they behave in ways I just wouldn't have accepted from my own children and I know I can't interfere. Its THEIR children. They bring them up as they seem fit. I look at my children and am so proud of what they have become through some difficult times (but won't go into that).

When my first grandson was born I was immediately filled with love (sadly he died at 2 days), then followed his sister and again I was so filled with love and so on with all of them. However, I still know there is a part of me that feels much the same as you do (I suspect) that the children you carry within you, who you bring up your way, with your guidance alone is something that cannot be repeated?

I guess we are lucky in that we have amazing relationships with our own children and perhaps some people don't but they do have with their grandchildren? I feel love for them all, its not that I don't, its just I understand what you are saying about your own children. Actually my mum is still pretty much the same with me....she adores her granchildren and great grandchildren but I know when it comes to it she still "spoils" me the most - I'm 64 ha ha ha

How do you measure love? I love my daughter; I love my granddaughters; I love my grandsons.

A long time ago when my daughter was young I described my heart as a huge house full of rooms. Some of the rooms, such as hers, were occupied. Some of those rooms had been occupied, such as my father's, but were now empty but still belonged to the person who had been there. Some of those rooms were waiting for their doors to open for someone to move in for the first time. Someone moving into a previously unoccupied room didn't make anyone else's room smaller or less important.

Actually my question should have been why do you measure love?

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I love all my children but they are all very different and sometimes not very lovable.i love my two grandchildren but I can’t say it was instant. It grew gradually and like others I enjoyed them more when I could interact with them.

Hear, hear Bluebell! How weird to compare like that.

Love them all

Franburn I totally get you and agree. It's a different type of love I think. It's unconditional but not the same as for my children.

I love my son and daughter more than I can say and I love their children enormously, but , they are their children. They are excellent parents and whilst always trying to be supportive when needed, I don't feel that I should micro-manage their lives. They are families in their own right and I love them very much. My 'family' is my husband who enjoys all the attention he gets now that our children are all grown up with homes and families of their own.