SGO

I'm sorry, I don't understand.
What is SGO?

Neither do I. There have been numerous attempts to change the pension age back for women, or to compensate for their lost pensions, but they have always failed.
Of course, it is Labour party policy and on their manifesto last GE but not enough people voted for them!
The caring for grandchildren issue is similar- I presume this is around school times. Likewise increasing spending on childcare provision was another Labour promise but people would rather vote for self-serving cronyism.
Sorry to be political but this government doesn't care about how difficult your life is.

Special Guardianship Order.

If you have primary custody of your gc, how about arranging childcare while you work?

Hithere- child care costs are not cheap. The children must be in school so maybe OP has no time to herself if she's working all day. Out of school clubs and weekend activities can be very expensive but I think OP means she can't afford to retire.
It must be tough to see other people not much older enjoying their retirement when you are still working five days and have two young children to care for full-time.

Keepingquiet,

If anybody has guardianship of children, it is his/her duty to take care of them 24/7, with all the implications for his/her personal and financial life

If you are not willing to give up retirement and the life you think you deserve, give up the guardianship. It is easy. You cannot have both

Can’t help much but I’m assuming you claim your NI credits as a carer for children? Counts towards your pension.

Btw, I am a mother to very young kids
No need to remind me how expensive childcare is and the cost in my personal life.

We mothers make it work, OP can do it too

Are you receiving Universal Credit, to top up your wages, for you and your grandchildren? If so, l understood that you only had to work 16 hours, if you are on your own and, that if you have a partner, one of you must then work 25 hours

Why should the op do it? She has already saved the state a fortune bringing up her grandchildren. Surely she deserves a bit of extra help from the state for ‘free’?
AzaZ9 . You deserve a medal.

Hithere

Keepingquiet,

If anybody has guardianship of children, it is his/her duty to take care of them 24/7, with all the implications for his/her personal and financial life

If you are not willing to give up retirement and the life you think you deserve, give up the guardianship. It is easy. You cannot have both

Are you in the UK Hithere?
If the OP has an SGO she shares parental responsibility. That means she doesn’t have ‘to take care of them 24/7.... etc”. She Dan work or have friends she sees, just like anyone else. I don’t understand the combative tone you’ve taken.

AzA - are you saying as part of UC you’re expected to find work for 25 hours that fits around child care.? The law expects Special Guardians to be treated as foster careers are - that is financial support
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No, I am in the US

The principle of my post still stands - if she is unable to face her responsibilities, she should give that role up

TBH you would have to work until retirement age anyway wouldn’t you? Presumably full time?
So you work part time and then look after the children.
I guess that you have to really weigh up how your life will be affected when taking on the responsibility for caring for GCs in later years. It’s not easy, but I’m sure you are doing a great job, however you will presumably be looking after them until they are 18? So you really need to sort this out soon before you get too weighed down with it all.

Hithere

Btw, I am a mother to very young kids
No need to remind me how expensive childcare is and the cost in my personal life.

We mothers make it work, OP can do it too

You're not 63 years old. By the time you approach retirement and then they say you have to work for another 6 years and have your grandchildren full time you may get some inkling.
I'm glad you're making it work- I did too.

I have to agree with HiThere on this. Us parents have to make it work. If you have legal guardianship you are again parenting with all that entails. I'm saving the state a fortune caring for others that I could get the state to cover but it's my choice to take on that responsibility and fit it into my life. Granted I do not have the same health I had when I was a young parent but I work around it.

AzaZ9

You are doing aa grand job, it is not easy as a grandparent having to take on the responsibility of an SGO and all it entails.

There is a reason nature gives us the menapause, beacuse we are exhausted by full time childcare as we get older, I know I am.

I have an SGO for my 5 year old grandson, he has been with us for the last 2 1/2 years.

Hithere

Keepingquiet,

If anybody has guardianship of children, it is his/her duty to take care of them 24/7, with all the implications for his/her personal and financial life

If you are not willing to give up retirement and the life you think you deserve, give up the guardianship. It is easy. You cannot have both

Are you totally without any empathy?- If you are not willing to give up retirement and the life you think you deserve, give up the guardianship. It is easy. You cannot have both

Seriously you think it is easy??? the OP is entitled to have a moment over this- you are a mother - you chose to have a child. if the other poster is in a similar situation as mine- my grandson was being neglected and emtionally abused, If I hadn't stepped in he would be in the care of social services.
They deserve respect for being prepared to give up the life they earned to look after the grandchildren. I found your comments very insulting.

This was not a choice to have a child, they have stepped in and had their life turned upside down by some one elses actions. SGO's are not granted when the parents are able to care for a child themselves. It is a long drawn out intense process.

And an SGO does not take away a parents financial or emotional responsibility, it gives the person with the SGO overall responsibility for the child.

AzaZ9 if either of the parents work, you may be able to seek child support from them.

I hope it all works out for you.

Hithere, have you no feelings at all ? I am astounded at your total lack of empathy. AzaZ9, is doing an amazing and difficult job , aged 63!! You sound very bitter, why is that I wonder ? This person has had her own children and now finds herself taking on a huge responsibility. She is sacrificing so much to ensure her GC are taken good care of. She deserves admiration at a time when most people of her age are enjoying the opportunity to take life a little easier.
Please stop and reconsider your remarks.