My adult son and I used to be very close particularly because I brought him up on my own until he was 14. We always used to talk about everything. He got married to my lovely dil and I couldn’t have been happier. When they told me that dil was pregnant I was so excited and was looking forward to dgs being born.
Fast forward a year and I totally adore dgs he’s a little treasure. I look after him on a Monday and he goes to nursery and his other nanny has him on a Wednesday. I recently helped my
son and dil to move house taking days off work and spending 2 days loading
vans, painting etc. That was 2 months ago. Since that time my son has become very distant from me, he’s always too busy to call and see me and if I arrange to go round to see him he’s busy doing something and I just feel in the way. I’ve asked so many times if I can help or if he and dil need a break I will take dgs anytime for them. Apart from my Monday with dgs though they never ask me. Dils parents have dgs all of the time for days and spend days with dil and dgs. I know I’m sensitive but I feel so so sad that our relationship is now more passing the time of day and no longer a proper mum/son chatty relationship we once had. I know he’s now married and I'm no longer his number one but I did think he would pop round and see me occasionally or ask me round for a coffee when he was off work. I don’t think I'm a demanding moaning mum - I let them get on with their own lives, don’t interfere in their lives and praise both dil and son constantly for the lovely house they’re making together. I’m just sad I suppose that our relationship is now so distant my
Son feels like a stranger to me. He also doesn’t take time to see my elderly parents and never goes to see them. I take dgs to see them on a Monday when I have him otherwise they would never see him and they are both late 80s and love to see dggs and also their gs - they know he’s busy and never complain but I am at a loss to know how to handle this situation - do I just back off and wait for him to ask to see me? Please be gentle with me I’m very emotional today - thank you for reading my post it means so much
Estranged Son and Future Granddaughter
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic