My lovely MIL is 89, the last couple of times we’ve seen her I have become increasingly sure that she has the onset of Dementia. My Father was also present and mentioned it to my DH (they have an excellent relationship) but DH didn’t seem to have noticed (or at least want to notice). My Father saw MIL again on Sunday and it confirmed for both of us what he had been thinking. Knowing my DH he hasn’t acknowledged it and nor will he any time soon. His late Father had terrible Alzheimer’s and didn’t recognise DH for the last three or four years of his life and DH really struggled with this.
My Brother-in-Law and his wife live with MIL and are her carers. From chatting to SIL I don’t think she has seen the decline so obvious when you are not seeing someone daily. My SIL is doing her best, but I don’t think she is accustomed to looking after someone living with Dementia.
DH’s lovely sister was there too, should I gently raise it with her or step back and wait for MIL’s children to take a course of action? I have a reasonably good understanding of Dementia because of my job, I want to see MIL access the help she needs but not sure if it’s my place.
For clarification, I know the best thing with DH is to give him time to process information, he will raise it when ready.
Any advice or thoughts gratefully received... ?
Lasr two letters continued Jan 24