Anxiety anyone? Mine is off the scale at the moment

Hello. I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. It must be so hard for you. I suffer with terrible anxiety after some awful things in my life so I think I know how you feel. There are a few threads on here re anxiety. Try The Black Dog Gang. I'm sure others will come forward with more advice than I can give. Maybe your GP can help. I assure you you are not alone. Sending good wishes.

The Black Dog Gang is on the Health forum.

Ilive this scenario daily ,my lovely daughter has multiple healthe issues that have meant she is confined to bed most of the time.She has 3 children and she worries about them and in turn calls me to download her worries.I've known 2 people with the same illnesses she has who have died in the past two years and every time the phone goes ,especially late at night my BP goes through the roof.
If your girls have had good feedback from the tests I'd say try to relax,use meditation or mindfulness and speak to your gp about any groups in your area that might help.Its the most difficult thing in life to watch someone you know go through stuff like this but even if it is bad news there will be help available and a cure on the horizon.
What you need to remember is if they sense your anxiety they'll worry about you and its a viscious circle so help yourself forst and then you'll be able to support them when/if they need you.Good luck to you all and a wish for a better time ahead for you .

Anyone would worry with medical issues but somehow you have to stop worries taking you over completely. This is all psychological, like people who can't sleep because their brains are racing. There are techniques for that, in other words clearing your mind of negative worries when you lie down to sleep. I know very little about depression etc. but there are surely ways of taking back control and not letting your imagination run away with you. Smokers, alcoholics and druggies have to learn how to control their cravings when they give up. It's all about harnessing the subconscious mind which is the one controlling you. The conscious mind knows what to do and how to do it, but is not in control! Maybe there are books or a local therapist who can help you take control of your anxieties.

My condolences on the death of your mum and at the same time having both daughters being investigated is very stressful for anyone, never mind a worrier. I am glad results so far are clear, hang onto that.
You might talk to your gp, there may be groups or medication which might help you get through this difficult period.
It will pass, honestly, but being a worrier myself I do understand.

I'm not a worrier (despite a few horrendous life experiences). My friend is, though, and she finds yoga and meditation help her.

Pollyj same here I suffer badly from anxiety. When it comes to health we find that at our age, we not only worry about ourselves, but our partners, adult children, grandchildren and possibly we still have elderly parents. So it's not surprising we go on overdrive. As recently I've become depressed as well I plan to finally see my GP about it all. I don't think they'll have a magic wand but should be able to help.

Please don't let your anxiety get out of hand. I did and my life became intolerable.

Thank you all for replying. It's good to read and I will look up the black dog gang. x

KatyK

Oh thank you BlueSky I didn't mean to make it about me. Just advising Polly to get help.

Pollyj
Please look at some deep breathing techniques on YouTube.

KatyK we have the blood pressure, the anxiety and the Catholic Church in common, so I know what you mean!

Yes Bluesky. Kindred spirits.

Depression and anxiety are not necessarily the same thing. I would not say I suffer from depression but I would say I worry a lot and am anxious about my family.
pollyj I can work myself up into a frenzy worrying about things. Perhaps you could try a relaxation app something like Calm which teaches you to concentrate on something other than your worries. Some of us are cup half full people, others like me are cup half empty. Always worrying about something. Hopefully your daughters will be ok.

I know just how you feel. Talk to someone you trust, if you can. It does help to get perspective I find. I always find that worrying about our children is 100 times worse than worrying about ourselves or anyone else

I absolutely agree with Chestnut. I occasionally suffer with unfocused anxiety. I’ve learnt that not allowing myself some quiet and solitude is what starts it off. I now recognise the voice in me that’s crying out for peace and ‘treat’ my own symptoms by simply taking the time I need. I’ve also found a session of reiki resets me. Why and how I don’t know, it just works.

My anxiety and depression are always off the scale. It gets worse and worse and worse, I have tried everything I can and it never gets better. And GP’s are useless, at least all the ones I have come into contact with are anyway. I can’t take medication because of other health issues. It is difficult to get an adequate counsellor and even if you pay a fortune they are
ineffectual. I can’t exercise cos of chronic pain. There is NO medication for the type of chronic pain I have. I have a husband I do not like and probably never did but was too scared to leave. I have health anxiety, social anxiety, life anxiety. I have tried meditation etc. nothing works.... I actually envy you people who suffer from occasional anxiety , occasional depression, and occasional panic attacks. I have them 24x7.

Just a thought Pollyj .... I am very fortunate in that I do not have depression but do get very anxious from time to time.
I have found that the Homeopathic medicine Argent Nitricum (or Arg. Nit. ) taken three times daily really calms the nerves and directs thoughts to positive ones.
You can find it at Holland & B or online at Helios Pharmacy. Ask for potency 200C.
There is also Rescue Remedy which can be carried in the handbag for when you are out and about.