My mum now aged 89 years has been diagnosed with mild dementia 2/3 years back. Her memory is not good but she still very hygienic and can look after herself good. She is good for taking her medication. As the carer has confirmed on more than one occasion mum is very good compared to her other patients who are not so independent. Apart from that mother is quite fit for her age compared to others of similar age or some even younger. She has had blood tests / other tests all of which have come back clear and as all the consultants have said over the years to her ‘she is very fit for her age’ . I honestly feel at times she wishes she wasn’t so fit and she is always complaining about how ill she feels - yet on camera you see her walking up and down stairs, dusting etc which is good. She does have a walking stick and also has osteoporosis which is handled with pain medication. She does thrive on attention from doctors and hospital staff. I would say my relationship with her has never been a special mother/daughter relationship. She lives alone but has good family support. She is very blessed in many ways. I live very close to her. She has a carer in twice a day just for a chat and making sure she takes medication. Mum is very independent in many ways but is very attention seeking. She has always been attention seeking and/ or a victim of sorts which has really worsen with dementia. She can be very childlike - at times you feel you are dealing with a toddler with attitude. She has become at times very angry & her focus at moment is on me. She has told me to f—k off a few times and to get out of her home. She has spoke bad about me to other members of family. These incidents have been on camera as we have put a camera in living room, kitchen, dining room, and we have a ring alarm at front door. Also, another incident which happened only yesterday I kept my sister on phone so she could hear everything so thank god I have back up as otherwise I could have been seen as a complete evil demon! I am not well myself having heart disease and diabetes. During this covid I have been able to visit her most days with shopping and for company. Some days are more tolerable than other days. But listening to her how she has degraded me the last couple of weeks I find hard to ignore or let it go - I am finding it now extremely difficult to even look at her straight in the face. I am due to go up there today to help her pack as my brother Jimmy having her over Christmas. I now feel sick at the thought of having to see her - what sort of mood will she be in - I Know it could be difficult helping her pack but then she could have a good day? I am finding her very difficult & I am not coping mentally or physically. As she said to me last night demanding I read notice dating back 2017 - and she said to me “who the f—k else have I got”. At moment I don’t like her at all!
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