Thanks for your input, its really much appreciated, at times it feels lonely and unsure where to turn, its great to have people who's been there and got valuable experience to add here.
Ok, some more background. I have a sister and the will is split 50/50. My mum has passed away some years now, which coincide with my dads decline.
The building works that are needed here are to have a ground floor toilet, not a massive job, as there is an outside space, it just needs to be done. Not much disturbance to inside of the house due to outside siting. If not done, my Father has to continue going upstairs and he will for sure, not be able to make it soon, or, worse, fall down, he's very unsteady.
The 2nd thing is the boiler has to be replaced, as its 40 years old, and whilst it is still working, it should be condemned for a variety of reasons.
Unfortunately, my sister is unable to assist me financially with the above, additionally she spends minimal time with my dad, perhaps 2 hours a month, she lives 30 minutes drive, she accepts that she don't do much, but insist that this is all she can squeeze in, due to having 3 kids, of ages 9-14. Meanwhile, I am at home with my Father, giving night time and weekend relief to the full time carer, whom I organised, much to the surprise of the Council who told me it was unlikely to work, now it is 6 months, generally ok, but always under strain. Whilst I do not begrudge giving my father happy times and the comfort of his own home, in the twilight of his life, I have nevertheless placed my life on hold, I am a socialite, not a stay at home person, and I am disappointed to find out it ended up like this, where I feel single-handed and isolated and not much useful outside help. Honestly, I would say its grossly unfair that 1 person does a lot, another does very little, but they both have the same outcome, where's the incentive to look after your parent? I fully expect that once he goes into a Home, it will be Out of Sight, Out of Mind and my dad will get even less social interaction than he does now and he craves for the social connection & is key reason why I battle for him.
This is part of the reason why I should like to get the house into my name, so I can do things my way, give him some quality of life, and not be restrained by people who don't put the effort in. When it continues like this, clearly my dad has to go into a Home, as there's a complete impasse. If the house is in my name, then clearly I would be liable for his care costs, I am clear on that ?
I don't want to go via the GP, as it will take too long, my dad has already had his 2 Day Centre days withdrawn for acts of aggression, so his needs are right now. He's been declined from previous Respite Care Home as his needs too much, now my holiday plans may suffer, as I struggle to find somewhere who will take, it further makes me doubt whether this situation is sustainable. Having the funds to get a relief carer, Nursing Home would be a watershed.
Probably I will look up some lawyers who specialise in mental incapacity and take it from there, I wish it would be easier, but this is where we are.