TMI ALERT - sensitive souls do not read!
Seven years ago I had 3 trainees, all young women, 16-17yo, whose lunch time conversations were an eye opener for me. I suppose I assumed that the 'dating game' was much the same as in my teenage years, i.e. boys wanting to taking things further and girls wanting a bit of committment first. Not so! Apparantly all the boys wanted was a quick BJ, followed by a refusal to kiss, 'because I know where that mouth has been'. From the male's point of view this was eminently 'satisfactory' - quick, clean, no chance of pregnancy, or VD, (or so they thought!) no condoms required, no stripping off required, no effort on their part, very little chance of a 'failure' or having their own shortcomings, lack of experience or talent in this department exposed.
My trainees, railed against this state of affairs, saying that it was demeaning to women, there was no pleasure for them in it, no romance or closeness, that they felt 'used'. On the plus side some girls remained technically virgins, they did not have to worry about going out on the pull when they had a period, and they avoided the dreaded pregnancy. They certainly thought that school sex-ed bore no relation to the current scene and that there was a growing culture of disgust with regard to female parts, deemed smelly and ugly, and shock horror sometimes HAIRY! If a girl wanted full sex then she had to look for a (much) older man.
Now I know this was a very small sample, but I discussed the issue, in general terms, with my 40yo DD and some of my younger friends and they confirmed that this was a decided trend among the current generation of teenagers. Sorry this is so long, but just meant to illustrate the danger of trying to apply yesterday's solutions to today's problems.