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Stolen baby found after 17 years

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Grannyknot Sat 28-Feb-15 16:39:06

This is quite a remarkable story that has been reported in the international media - here too. It is very sad, such huge adjustments await all concerned.

iolmobile.co.za/#!/article/stolen-zephany-mom-in-court-1.1824710

loopylou Sat 28-Feb-15 16:42:05

It's astonishing, especially how the two sisters met.
I can't imagine how it will all turn out.

granjura Sat 28-Feb-15 16:46:38

Perhaps think it might have been better not to know, if the 'parents' were good and loving (:

Anya Sat 28-Feb-15 16:46:59

Sorry, I have no sympathy at all with the kidnapper. To steal someone else's baby is a heinous crime.

Grannyknot Sat 28-Feb-15 16:54:15

When you see the photo in this report of the young biological mother with Zephany, her first baby - it is heartbreaking to think she was stolen from her in the hospital:

www.smh.com.au/world/stolen-baby-found-after-17-years-in-south-africa-20150228-13r9q2.html

nightowl Sat 28-Feb-15 16:57:17

The poor girl as well, to discover that her parents are not her biological parents in such a way. She must be in turmoil wondering where she now belongs? No happy ending here I fear.

granjura Sat 28-Feb-15 17:06:37

Who is talkinga bout sympathy for the kidnappers???

I am thinking about the 17 year old whose life is thrown into total turmoil here.

Anya Sat 28-Feb-15 17:10:24

It sounded as if you thought it was a pity this ever came to light Jura ... and yes, for the sake of this baby/young girl, you are correct.

But for the parents who now know what happened to their baby their wait is over. They never gave up hope.

Nelliemoser Sat 28-Feb-15 17:16:57

It is a terrible crime, but often the women who do steal babies are quite disturbed at the time and it probably could be argued very vulnerable emotionally. I am not making apologies for the woman but this has to be considered in any sentencing.

I just hope the two families find a way of dealing with this mess, that does not cause any further emotional damage to the feelings of the poor child concerned.

Mishap Sat 28-Feb-15 17:20:19

What a very strange and difficult situation for this young woman - suddenly, after a loving upbringing, she finds herself ripped from her "family" and in the care of the state.

The kidnapper needs to be brought to justice for her crimes, but this young lady needs to have some choice over what happens to her next. She may wish to stay with her known wider family, even if her "mother" finishes up in prison.

Ana Sat 28-Feb-15 17:22:07

I feel so sorry for the child (who is actually a young woman at 17 IMO) at the centre of all this, now in the care of Social Services with her sense of identity truly shattered. sad

Ana Sat 28-Feb-15 17:23:04

x posts expressing similar sentimentx, Mishap!

J52 Sat 28-Feb-15 17:27:00

How awful for those involved. Hard to imagine the situation.
I remember reading a book years ago , written by Monica Dickens,about two babies swapped at birth. I think it was called Joy and Josephine.

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Eloethan Sat 28-Feb-15 21:54:41

A terribly sad situation for everyone.

If it weren't for the fact that the parents of a missing child must wake up every morning wondering what had happened to their child, I feel a bit like jingle. It will create so much misery, confusion and conflicting loyalties in both families, and especially for the young woman who was abducted.

annsixty Sat 28-Feb-15 22:02:13

There was a a not dissimilar situation recently where babies had been swapped at birth and I don't think it had a very happy outcome if I remember correctly. It is several lives disrupted and ruined.

absent Sun 01-Mar-15 01:02:48

What may have ruined lives is not the finding of the abducted daughter but her theft in babyhood in the first place.

Atqui Sun 01-Mar-15 15:47:43

'It might have been better not to know..' .. But imagine what could have happened if the poor girl met and had a relationship with a sibling (as they live in the same town).

Deedaa Sun 01-Mar-15 19:10:27

How awful for the poor girl to have been taken away from all the people she has regarded as family. I can't see this ending well for her without superhuman efforts from everyone involved. It's the thing that worries me about Madeleine McCann - if she was found alive would she want to come back?

Faye Sun 01-Mar-15 19:33:17

It is always better to know, how would she feel if she found out twenty, thirty or more years later she had been stolen at birth. She would more than likely feel very cheated that she didn't get to know her biological parents.

It's interesting how she clicked with her biological sister, apparently they became good friends even though there is four years age difference.

TriciaF Mon 02-Mar-15 14:10:24

Annesixty - I read a story like that recently, it took place somewhere in SE France. The father of one of the girls had asked for a genetic test because the young woman didn't ressemble him or his wife. Somehow traced their real daughter.
But by that time (?20 years) both girls regarded the family they'd grown up with as their own.
I'm not sure of the outcome, I think they wanted to keep it private.

Stansgran Mon 02-Mar-15 17:36:11

I think both families stayed as they were. The French woman's husband divorced her because there was so much comment in the village where they lived how unlike him the daughter was. They were awarded a large sum of money although the maternity home has long gone. The other family wanted to remain anonymous.