When I was newly divorced and needing support and help with two small children, my mother told me that I needed to practise being on my own!!! knowing I would have to work she said she had washed up to show me how to save about 30p by not using the dishwasher. this from a woman who never worked, had well sufficient money, home help twice a week, dishwasher egg and didn't drive so never needed to drive her only child anywhere!!! at the same time my retired father , when I asked him if he would mow my lawn while I was a t work, said he had his own work to do and I needed to get a routine!