I ran out of patience after 15 years of running the same old script with an over-anxious man who preferred not to participate in family activities, and would rather work overtime when his children were poorly with childhood illnesses like mumps and whooping cough, than lend a hand (I was taking the stairs three at a time when one segregated twin was coughing and heaving, bringing up her milk, whilst the other twin was on the other side of the house so she didn't also get the whooping cough). Men who don't feel the need to get on with it will find they lose the respect of their spouse in the end, no matter how many times the woman puts in that effort to maintain their relationship. If just once in all those years he had noticed the toll his lack of interest was taking on me, I might have stuck it out even longer. Wouldn't do that now - you wouldn't have seen me for dust!
So...be patient and tolerant for long enough, then if he doesn't get it, don't feel it all hangs on you - it takes two to make a good relationship.