I do feel a bit awkward about this, but here goes.
I am 54, my DH is coming up to 57, we have together for 11 years, married for 8 years. We have not had full sex for over 7 years. I still love him very much and feel that a full relationship should be part of that love, however it just doesn't happen.
At first I put in down to depression when he wasn't working, then a few years ago he started a job that he absolutely loved. I hoped that would mean our sex life would improve, but it didn't. There followed another patch of unemployment, he is know working again (away during the week, home at weekends) and still nothing.
I have tried all sorts of approaches, but no luck. It doesn't help that he is somewhat reserved over such matters.
I remember years ago a colleague was in the same situation and she warned me then not to let it go on for too long, or it would just become a sort of "non habit", I now understand what she meant.
We do have shared intimacy, but not full lovemaking. Oh heavens, I hope you know what I mean, this has been rather difficult!