Hi
Looking for suggestions or experiences. I have read on this forum about people who have moved abroad on retirement or earlier and then have problems when there was an economic downturn or one partner died. I have read also on this forum about someone who is thinking of leaving a partner but it would be damaging financially.
My problem is a bit different. My husband died a few years ago and my parent are both dead now. I only have 2 DDs, one of whom is in a difficult relationship for sure and the other is suspected of being under the thumb. I have 5 grandchildren from 14 to 1 years old. I have not seen the eldest two for 6 years (lots of complicated reasons for this which include Social Services). Another two (siblings and half siblings to the eldest two) live less than 5 miles away. I have not seen those two for over a month and even then I did not feel welcome in their house. The singleton DGC visits more often but often there are a load of texts and the next thing they have to go home. (Think it is the partner doing the texting. It was the same when she was at school and even at work she is told to take a sickie). Everyone has cars so it is not as if they have to walk or take loads of buses.
I try really hard not to be a whinning granny but I really wish things were different, The two DDs do not even communicate with each other much. This partner does not like that partner etc. I have tried to get on with both partners but they are both more than I would take from a partner of mine.
After all the deaths I now have my old house and the house I was brought up in. I dont feel "at home" or at ease in either house. I have tried to stay here so that I can see the DGC. That is not happening. I have also had some health problems which have made me think about my own future. I am over 60 and disabled. There are things I want to do and that includes moving from this city. I am thinking of moving about 100 miles away. The way I see it is that if I am going to be alone I might as well be alone in a better place than this. The view from this house is tenements. I would chose a rural location.
I have had bother with the neighbours who kept asking what I was doing about the house and the cars and generally interrogating me! When it became clear that I was not going to enter into this curiosity they stopped speaking to me at all.
I am scared of being even more lonely if I move to a completely different area and being so remote. I live in a huge city and it is very lonely. Has anyone or anyone you know ever done anything like this and how did it turn out.
Thanks a lot
Sugarpufffairy
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Things you find stressful that other people don't notice.