What a wise and lovely post Sillygrandma5GK and thank you, Sparkling for your good wishes.
This year, I have been invited to the house of my son, his partneer and son, for 3 days.
This because my dil wants to take all the work of Christmas off my shoulders. A very kind gesture indeed.
I was looking forward to it but as it draws nearer, I see many 'disadvantages' (in inverted commas because maybe I'm making too much of them?).
They have very low couches which means I cannot easily get up from them. I hate it when my son has to haulme up. so when I visit, I usually sit on a dining chair all the time.
There's no handrail in their shower which means I feel unsafe in it.
I won't be in my own bed and am always too hot in their spare room, even with the window open.
In my house not only is the bedroom window open but my front door as well, so a nice, cooling breeze flows through, all night.
None of this is desperate stuff of course and there are ways round it all and I know I'll enjoy myself, so I should stop being an old curmudgeon.