I keep choosing men who are in some way emotionally unavailable. I divorced the father of my children when I was 32 and have been "alone" but not really alone - a series of long and short term relationships that did not really fulfil my needs even when at the time I thought I was happy. Soon enough the men have revealed themselves to be narcissistic or in some way aloof. I have been in a relationship for almost two years and every time I feel frustrated and communicate this to my partner he informs me that he doesn't "do stress" and wants "an easy life" which results in my apologising and retracting from exploring my reasons for feeling upset. Its happened again. I am distraught. I have two grown up sons and two grandchildren and cannot face another failure. I'm 61. If this fails I am resigned to being alone. I am self aware enough to know its me - even down to choosing them in the first place so counseling isn't the answer. I feel completely damaged, flawed and therefore unlikeable and unlovable. I have a professional life by the way - one in which I am respected and valued but don't feel like this in my private life. Please be kind - can anybody offer any words of wisdom?
Wicked Little Letters? (funny film of a long-forgotten case)