Supporting your ex partner during her mum drying

I think that is is good of you to sympathise with your ex but maybe a bit tactless to do it from your partner's bed!

Be a bit more discreet?

In your shoes ....I'd say you're being very very kind which is an admirable trait. However, be a bit more discreet but not sneaky or secretive with it. Your new girlfriend has a choice & surely if she cannot see the humanitarian side of this she's blind to your thoughtful nature which normally she probably benefits from? Nevertheless, discretion will help. In the meantime, don't stop supporting you ex wife. You've got a history, maybe children, which your current partner hopefully will come to understand & not see as a threat as your relationship matures.

Maybe it is tactless, but your present partner is insecure and possessive. Best wishes to you for being kind and inclusive. Your present partner is fortunate to have met you.

Be upfront with your present partner and honest. You will have slot of history with your ex-partner and it is the decent thing to do - supporting her while she is going through such a stressful time. Reassure your present partner that your actions are purely supportive at this time. If she has a problem with what you are doing, then she is not the one for you.