Hoping some wise gransnetters can help me as I feel like I’m in a hole i just cant climb out of.
My husband of 32 years (together for 41) had an affair for over a year with a work colleague who was also a mutual friend.
She expected him to keep the affair secret but he told me and it has devastated me.
He and i agreed to try to stay together. She left his workplace and never contacted him again. H and I had counselling (individual and couples). He says he's still with me and we should just get on with the future.
It is nearly 2 years since the affair came out and I try, i really try, to be over it but I am not.
I have improved so i can go for long stretches without mentioning it, but i think about it every day.
My h and I both still work and his job means he is often away during the week. If he then doesn't phone me every night I start to spiral down in to ‘affair madness’. When he was carrying on and was away for work sometimes he was actually with her and I cant forget that. Its like everything triggers me.
Has anyone managed to get over something like this and have a happy marriage?
I feel like my whole future has been taken away. I am 62 years old and i feel too scared to be alone. My friends all have grandchildren and their own lives. Our child lives in Australia and has no children. My family are all dead unfortunately. My husband was my best friend I thought.
Can i start a new life alone at 62?
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