Co-incidence or not?

No I ve never had any porn emails I do get some spam but never porn I would imagine someone has been looking at porn to get the spam

I don't get spam or porn but my YouTube seems to be linked to DH's. We have our computers in different rooms. It is a bit annoying as his interests are very different from mine. I don't want to be offered all that football or stuff about pre-war warships.

Jezra I am sorry I didn't notice that you posted both the first message and the later one about dementia - and sorry too that your has had had that devastating diagnosis of dementia - I was replying purely by what you put in your opening post.

You said "I know from talking to friends that most seem to get what they call spam (disgusting) emails from porn sites, dating sites etc. However, I seem to get them and it’s nearly always the same name as our attractive neighbour. " . which did indeed read as though you thought the post was from the neighbour rather than from a porn site. No mention there of dementia.

When devices share a router it is possible for what comes into the home via that router to affect all the devices which share it. The easiest solution, if your router supports this, is to set up a separate "guest" network then allocate trusted and untrusted devices to these separate networks.

You may find this useful:

askleo.com/protect-computers-local-network/

Scroll down to the video for an overview of what you can do to protect your own devices.

And this short video from BT:

www.bt.com/help/user-guides/bt-whole-home-wi-fi/what-is-guest-network-and-how-do-i-set-it-up-

BlueBelle

No I ve never had any porn emails I do get some spam but never porn I would imagine someone has been looking at porn to get the spam

I have never looked at porn yet I get spam emails from some very dodgy sites - targeted both at women and men! They go in my junk box and I delete unopened. I but a lot of things online and suspect that my email address gets sold on.

I’m not too worried as my password to my email account is very secure and I don’t appear to have been hacked. When your emails have been hacked I think people in your contact list get strange emails from you asking for money or sending out odd links to sites.

I’ve never heard of one device picking up information from using the same WiFi connection, only when a device has been shared.

You could put a child lock on your husbands device to restrict sites he could go to and I think it also stops him buying things online - a problem for some people with dementia. I think there are also apps which would allow you to look at your husbands browsing history from your device - again something parents do.

Have you looked at Talking Point, a forum on the Alzheimer’s Society website, it’s full of advice from carers looking after pwd ( people with dementia)

I have never received dodgey emails and I get over 50 a day.
It is relatively common for elderly men to lose their inhibitions when dementia strikes which is what the phrase "dirty old man" was intended to convey.
I belive your husband has been looking up inappropriate material online. Time to check his browsing history methinks.
I do get adverts for all sorts of things I have no interest in which my OH is definitely to blame for. In the past week the ads have been for electric cars and generators. Certainly mistargetted. We don't share computers, phones, tablets or email addresses.

If porn messages include the names of neighbours, attractive or unattractive, then someone in the recipient household has been searching these websites and entering these names.

Nothing to do with wifi, passwords or any technological defect. Stop pretending the elephant isn't in the room. Sit every other adult person in the household down one by one and discuss the matter with them. One of them is responsible.

Why is this something you are afraid to discuss? If lots of porn sites suddenly started appearing in my inbox, or DH's, I would imediately mention it. Why wouldn't you?

The OP has replied and mentioned that DH has dementia……..

Why can’t the OPs replies be in Green?

I used to get besieged by spam emails offering me penis enlargement and Rolex watches, neither of which I'd ever needed or searched for. Fortunately they've stopped now and I only get funeral plans spam.

Oh, I missed that, then the situation is entirely different. This kind of behaviour is not uncommon when someone has this condition.

I would think that the memory clinic or the psychiatric nurse at your GP practic could advise on how to deal with this. With due respect, unless someone has had experience of this problem in the family, good professional advice is many times more useful than anything we may say.

Why do so many OPs ask advice but only tell us half the story? The OPs first post does not mention that her DH has dementia. Yesterday I responded to another thread where the OP didn't reveal key information until about halfway down the second page.

Oopsadaisy1

The OP has replied and mentioned that DH has dementia……..

Why can’t the OPs replies be in Green?

We have asked for this about 100 times……

Oopsadaisy1

The OP has replied and mentioned that DH has dementia……..

Why can’t the OPs replies be in Green?

I agree, but why do people just 'jump' in with their own assumptions so quickly?

Because they don’t read the thread ( “far too busy with better things to do”). Many people seem to see the OP thread starter then reply to that totally ignoring anything else and then disappear again. Weird.

Lucca
They do say we only have a 3 second concentration rate, and sometimes I find that too long??