BlueBelle
My daughter in law calls me by my first abbreviated name .sounds fine to me, can’t understand the aunty business where does auntie come into it ? ?
All my mums friends were aunty but they don’t seem to do that now
For my own mother in law I called her Mum Surname so say Mum smith
The idea of a MiL being addressed as Auntie Given_name was just something I thought of. I wondered if it ever happens - it appears from this thread thus far that it does not.
I just wondered if being Auntie Given_name might defuse some of the situations that get discussed in this forum, or avoid them starting in the first place. My idea being that the MiL is then seen as a relative rather than an "in-law". So perhaps being as if aunt and niece might make it clearer as to roles and avoid friction, rather like the saying that good fences make for good neighbours. If everybody knows where the boundary is, then disputes over alleged boundary enchroachment are often avoided.
But maybe, just maybe, it might help somebody somewhere sometime.