If you wrote down what you look for in a partner, what would it say

Tolérant, similar (warped) sense of humour, ‘mucks in’, likes sport, can laugh at himself, honest, not fussed about pets, good personal hygiene.

Someone who would enjoy spending most of his spare time and money doing diy in my home.

Being kind is top of the list, but there are other non negotiable traits
Non smoker
Willing and able to hunt down spiders when necessary.
Shares my taste in decor
Shares my sense of humour
Never begrudges me anything
Is a proper man who chops wood, and other manly things
Looks good in Wellington boots
Decent cook
And definitely not a loud mouthed know it all.

This is very close to my husband! Not for sale....yet. Could be arranged ?. Seriously he’s not arty, but fits the Bill with many other attributes.I think the Christian is a definite for me too.

Would you consider loaning him?
I need a shelf fitted

Kind, intelligent, domesticated, presentable, nice voice, reasonably tall and definitely not fat, likes theatre and books, likes cats, treats women as people.

I think it is best to keep the list short and be open to all possibilities. DH may not be tidy, originally one of my absolutes, and as someone who needs order round them at times he drives me nuts with his stuff scattered everywhere.

But he is kind and loving and can mend anything.

I believe in keeping my options open.

House trained socialist.

Kind, clean, could not care less about his politics so long as he does not belong to any racist party.
My partner and I have very different politics, we vote for different political parties, but we are respectful of each others views, and that is important too.

Wow. Look at all these interesting answers. I've only just come back to this.
Thank you all for going with this

I found some post it notes which had the caption
“When you meet Mr right make sure his middle name isn’t Always!”

so perhaps I’d say willing to have a balanced discussion and respect other people’s viewpoint.
Also good , or willing cook, non racist, , emotionally literate, only moderate drinker, generous ,to name but a few traits

Kind
Clean finger nails
Slim (no beer belly)
Sense of humour
Someone to take care of all the household bills
Not controlling
Generous
Intelligent

Must like David Bowie or tolerate him 100%
not afraid of spiders
Love Halloween
Love Christmas
Good sense of humor
Like nights out and festivals
like night in watching movies and cuddles
No mood swings lol

Companionable, good humoured; kind and thoughtful; willing to listen as well as speak; interested in the lives and opinions of others and not determined to force his own opinions on those who disagree with him; emotionally mature; honest but diplomatic; positive in approach to life and other people.

I would imagine most people would like other more material qualities in their partners, such as cleanliness, willingness to share practical tasks, etc, etc.

Intelligent. Easy going. Kind. Tolerant. Non smoker. Animal lover. Generous. Family man. Sense of humour.
I am very fortunate to have all of this and my best friend to boot.
My biggest gripe would be that he likes to anchor objects with Blue Tack. Dusting is a nightmare.

Exactly what I have already!!

Breathing!

Some one who likes my children and gets on with them and the rest of my family. This would be the most important trait for me.

Generosity
Kindness
Tolerance
Animal lover
My husband to a T

I think we get more idea of what we think would suit us as we get older.
I was extremely shallow -I saw him, thought ‘I fancy that’.
48 years later he has all the qualities that I may have listed?
Maybe not all of them but certainly enough.

How many contributors to this thread feel they have the attributes to attract and keep the paragons they describe?

Definitely not me MOnica my tolerance levels are just above zero.

I am happily married but if my circumstances were different. I would look for a masculine strong man with a sense of humour and social skills. Tolerant and mature with very good do it yourself abilities. Unselfish and compassionate independent and not needy. A man who likes to watch rugby as I do and likes a pint or two. Down to earth nature responsible and straight talking because I am.

I'm happily single - so can only talk from past experience. I'd look for a kind and understanding chap. He'd have to let me be exactly who I am, so never try to change me.

He'd have to be independent and in the background, have his own life and interests - and let me have mine. I'd hate to be lumbered with somebody needy.