My son has mental health problems and due to this I’ve always made allowances for his behaviour to my own detriment. I allowed him to rant and rave at me for hours on the phone ‘to let him get it out of his system’ and save others from having to put up with it. But this was really just enabling him. Three years ago he turned a normal conversation with my husband into an argument and threatened his dad, he left and has refused to speak to him since. At first I kept contact with him in the hope I could pave the way back but my son has disowned the whole family, doesn’t want anything to do with us. The only contact has been with a nephew and my sister. My nephew has been really good and has kept in touch with him, and I have passed birthday and Christmas cards/presents through him, all unacknowledged. He has now managed to fall out with my nephew, who has had the patience of a saint, and also managed to upset and fall out with my sister. Neither of them will now have anything more to do with him. It’s his birthday next week and after all this time I had decided it was time to stop sending him anything, as I don’t know his address, he’s deliberately kept this from me and I don’t want to put my nephew or sister in an awkward position of have any repercussions and I am also scared that if I text him, I’ll open a can of worms. Having said all that, he’s my son and I love him, it’s torturing me that he will be on his own with nothing from his family on his birthday. I just don’t know what to do. My husband thinks I should leave well alone as he won’t forgive him for what he’s done, especially to me and the fact that he’s almost torn me and my husband apart.
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Good Morning Good Friday 29th March 2024
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