The main thing the pi.... me off is he Never ever sees anything needed in the house.
The kitchen is the same as it was when we moved in 18 yrs ago !
It was I that cut a worktop down so that we could put the fridge freezer in the kitchen as I was fed up off going into garage to get things out of fridge especially in winter door open and closed.
He’s never said I’ll paint the xxxx it’s left to me
This time the bedrooms needed badly doing, I’m No fit enough to do it, he’s not interested
So I payed for decorator as he’s no money so he says because off his 2 cars & motorbike ins & car maintenance & tax
There his priority
I do resent this as we don’t need 3 cars
When I met him 20 yrs ago, he sold his motorbike before we got together
It was only when he got some inheritance that he bought another one 15 yrs later
He’s spent £££ on designer motorbike gear
Yet won’t spent on the house to look nice, it a bike where there’s only about 50 left in the world, and I think he luvs the fact off that
It’s all he talks about bikes, bikes I’m sick off it to be honest.
Every night he’s on the laptop from 8-11pm looking at bikes, on bike/car forums
Yet if I watch something on tv that he thinks is wrong ie bit in film violence or something sad it “ why you watching this”
His bedtime routine is exactly the same most night mainly 11.10pm I can time it to a tee.
I think I’m going to start doing things for ME, not thinking he wants to be with me for the afternoon.
When he says, “ what we doing, I will say I’m going out”
Not to get my own back, he never ever says
Let’s go to xxx it’s always “where do you want to go”
I’ve asked him to decide but hardly ever comes up with anything or we end up staying in
From now on I’m putting myself first, I’ll go places on my own. I do have my own car
It’s just I think “ it’s nice to go together and choose things together” it’s now just clicked he’s not interested or wants to pay for anything nice for our home
But then that means I have to pay to keep a house nice(how I like it) and he gets the benefits
A nice house is important to me, as I luv nice things as we spend a lot off time at home.
Also I came from a large family 6 sisters and my mum brought us up alone as dad died when I was very young toddler. So times were very hard back in the 50/60’s
His dad was exactly the same as him I think from what I’ve learnt. His mum divorced his dad because he never did anything
Bikes were also in his blood
I’m not happy how I have to
Decide where to go
Pay for anything I suggest for interior house decor, but the he says “ it’s my house too, you don’t get to decide” ie furniture, painting etc even if I end up paying myself
He sits on the internet night after night, but picks me up on what I watch and what time I go to bed
He hates me reading in bed with light on, yet he’s asleep within 5 minutes!
Sorry ladies for going on, I think I need to vent