daughter told me she is in relationship with another girl

You know the answer

''this is all about her choice, and her life.''

I don't have similar experience but just wanted to say it's absolutely all right to have whatever feelings & thoughts you have, and work through them yourself.
You obviously have your daughter's happiness as your no 1 priority which is all you need.

But she may still be a mother! Families are very different these days. They must have been so relieved that you are so accepting and happy for them.

@midgey thank you, yes I think so

@FarNorth yes you are right, its good to know I can have those feelings and be happy at the same time.

My cousin had exactly this experience with one of her DDs,
The couple are now married and have 2 beautiful children.
I think her, my cousin's, feelings were very like yours.
I would feel the same, I am sure.
Now the whole family is very happy. I hope your DD will be too.

You sound like a lovely mum. Everything will work out just fine.

Lots of same sex couples have children these days , they may decide to later down the line . My twin girls are very different, one was a young Mum, she had her first baby at 17 her second at 19. My other daughter has just qualified as a teacher, still lives at home , she has lots of friends , bit no-one special. Their 30 this year and I do worry about her leaving it too late to be a mother. But as she never mentioned it , I guess she's not that bothered. She's a great Auntie, so maybe that's enough for her

Yes you do sound such a lovely mum.

Thank you Vito

Debbie58, its a good point that any woman whatever their sexual orientation is not necessarily going to become a mother

Grannyben, thank you

Grammaretto, thank you, none of my close friends are in the same situation as me so to hear of others who have gone through it is helpful

Firstly, your daughter is happy so brilliant ! There is absolutely no reason why you cannot look forward to grandchildren. My cousins daughter has been married to her wife for a number of years , they have two lovely children, Enough said I feel.

Our neighours are a female couple with two toddlers. No different from the hererosexual couple with toddlers who preceded them.

Any woman in whatever relationship may not be a mother BUT equally a same sex reLationship may produce children

My best friends niece is in a same sex relationship and they have three children all born to the same Mum using the same doner
don’t jump ahead you ve done it all right so far wait and see you may have some surprises ahead
Good luck to you all

I think it is good that your daughter has felt able to talk to you, and lovely that you have been supportive of her relationship. As others have said, tomorrow is another day. She is only 21, and may or may not still be in this relationship forever. Whether she is or isn't, she could still be a mother, if that's what she wants.

As you've said, this is about her, and if she's happy then that's all we can hope for for our children, and it's good that you know and like your daughter's girlfriend. She may go on to have relationships with men, or she may not. It doesn't matter, so long as she is happy. I know you know this, and are just adjusting to things not being as you expected, which is fine, too. As long as you can be happy for her, she is likely to continue to include you in her life, which is a blessing.

(this post was brought to you by the word 'happy' . That's always a good thing, though.)

She is 21, not 15 - so you hve to let her make her choices, and be there for her.

Lots of lesbian and gay couples have children

One of the better things about this century is that your daughter should have fewer problems with her life. The biggest concern for her has already been dealt with; she still has your love
You’re a wonderful mum for assuring her of her that, even if , in your mind you still wonder what may happen.
One niece shared the same experience with her parents and her aunts. She’s still unmarried, still happy with her partner and what she worried about most was family acceptance.

Isn’t it great that we are more accepting of different forms of relationships, which in our parents day would have caused a riot?

My close friend has just gone through her son becoming her daughter at the age of 47, which has been quite shock but slowly she has been able to accept this new situation.

She can have children if she wants to

Friends of mine had ivf using the egg from one and the womb of the other so that they would both feel like parents and they are so happy

If you have been looking forward to grandchildren then I can understand why you may be sad, but I think you have to roll with it.

My daughter and only child is 42 and while it is not too late for her to be a mother that is not her intention and she has never shown any sign of being maternal. That is why I am not a grandmother (and occasionally feel a bit of a fraud in this place). As a child I never had a close relationship with my grandparents; they were already elderly by the time I was born, lived at a considerable distance, and never really showed much interest in me when we did visit them. I do sometimes envy others who have close relationships with grandparents and grandchildren, but I try not to let it get to me. It's just something that was not to be my lot.

The best think I think is to delight in your daughter being happy, and try not to let your disappointment show.

She is happy, you are happy. Sounds like you are a lovely supportive Mum and we all worry about our children in some way or other.