Please bear with me .. this is a bit lengthy ..... When my daughter announced that she was going to marry my son-in-law I was thrilled - I thought he was a lovely bloke - I was wrong.
After enduring 17 years of his misbehaviour in my house of which there are too many incidents to mention but which culminated in his locking my youngest grand-daughter who was 7 at the time, outside my house in the dark because she was making too much noise, I had finally reached the end of my tether.
Then last year after 6 months of watching my daughter suffer from depression and even lose the confidence to drive down to see us and the bullying of his children increasing, it came to light that he had been having an affair for 7 months with a work colleague.
What followed was the usual heartache and tears - they had many discussions and during one he admitted to my daughter that he had always behaved badly in my house because he was jealous of our closeness. We have never had an apology. In fact from the day he was found out I have had no further contact with him and he is now banned from our house and to me and my husband and eldest daughter, no longer exists. My two young grand-daughters 11 and 14 were told by their father about his affair, which I thought was terribly wrong. I have never discussed this with them and do not mention their father to them and they don't often mention him to us although would of course never bad-mouth him to them. My daughter has decided to stick by him (aahhhhhh) but at least now brings the children to visit by herself.
I know some will think I am unreasonable but to watch your own daughter and grand-children being hurt is heartbreaking.
I would be interested to hear from anyone in a similar position - even opposing views!
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