Perhaps my mother should be answering this. I was born in 1958, she was un-married, my father was a married man, although (I believe) not a local chap. (That's alright then!)
I will not go into the whole thing here, but suffice to say it did not go down well, she was hidden while pregnant, arrangements made for me to be adopted etc. But I wasn't.
So, in short Granzilla you are wrong, things were not done "in order" in "your day" They may have been just tidied up so that all appeared to be as required!
Where to be interred ? Burial Decisions