I have known my husband for 9 years and we married 3 years ago. He has sons of 25 and 22. I have sons of 24 and 22. We didn't live together until the boys had all left home, and don't class each others children as our stepsons.
His eldest has two children aged 31/2 and 15 months, who come to stay for the weekend every month. They are lovely in spite of their parents, and this is where my problem lies.
Last month the youngest child arrived without any nappies, no warm cardigan or jumper and a coat that was filthy and too small for her. She has been walking for about three months but had no shoes.
Shoes, a coat, warm clothes and nappies were bought for her, along with a car seat a travel cot and bedding. (It was her first visit, although her brother has been coming since he was 3 weeks old).
This weekend, they arrived with 1 nappy, instructions that her shoes are too small and she needs a new pair, no toothbrushes or toothpaste, no pyjamas for the boy, need I go on.
The parents are both unemployed, he having worked for about a month in his life, and she never having worked.
Am I being unreasonable in expecting them to provide for their children, or at least not expecting us to provide for them without even a please or thank you.
I get more and more cross with every text from the parents, the latest being to tell us not to drop the children off until 4pm tomorrow as they are going out until 2.30.
My husband thinks I should just 'chill' but I think the more we do, the more they will expect us to do.
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