Wendy H - who is to say you were a ' bad mother' - It is not only mothering which shapes an individual, - there are so many other factors - genetics, - personality type - external influences, etc, - All of us can only ' do our best' as mothers.
I know fine well that there have been times when I could have done MUCH MUCH better- and my son and I talked in the past about things which could have been better managed by me, but still maintained a close relationship -
He was always very susceptible to the influence of others, - therefore when BANG along comes a very ' damaged' lady into his life, who is strong and manipulative - he rolls with her demands - even to excluding me from their lives !
And no, similarly, I would never have seen this coming! -
but what is interesting, is how many SONS disassociate themselves - It is difficult in many cases to find the right approach as a Paternal Grandparent - and often ( as in my case) a TOTAL disaster - however, you must not beat yourself up about it. I don't actually know how to find peace of mind at the moment, but somehow, I guess eventually we find a level.
Take Care
Angela
Good Morning Friday 25th April 2024
Fruit flies - help needed please.
Have any of you got all electric cars? Pros and cons please.