AIBU to hate New Year

Why did I hate German so much at school when it's such a wonderful language? [I know; it was the grammar ]. Need to add that one to the list [how sad a creature am I?] on the wall next to the pooter. I wonder what's the smallest wonderful German word there is that means something infinite?

janeainsworth very well put.

Weltschmerz? Anyone know? It's not that long for a German word really.

gracesmum I think it's quite normal even for those who are basically happy, to feel overwhelmed with sorrow sometimes and perhaps acknowledging those feelings is the first step in coping with the sadness of life alongside the joys.
I try not to think of New Year too much, because as I've got older I can't help wondering what awful things the New Year is going to bring, rather than thinking about the good things that I can look forward to.
2012 brought the sudden and unexpected death of the husband of a good friend , and the suicide of a young man we had known since the day he was born a few weeks before DS.
The pluses were the seeing my children successfully overcome some difficulties and of course being with my lovely DGCs.
So I hope for you and all of us that whatever happens in 2013 we can still maintain our friendships and cope with whatever life throws at us with calm and equanimity

We will eat about 7ish and sit and chat for a while maybe remembering things which have happened through the year and hopefully laughing at what happened.
Fire works will go off across the River Mersey and we will have pride of place to view them along with the sound of the Ships in the dock and on the River the noise goes on for maybe half an hour at the most,then maybe just the odd fire work during the night from revellers who can't tell the time ??
We have never really celebrated NYs eve we have always put our energies into the Christmas festivities instead.Best Wishes to everyone anyway and hoping you all remain in good health which is the most important thing of all.

I am quite ambivilent about New years eve .

Tonight we are going over to some friends for a nice dinner , will stay over then have the day with them and some others who are coming over so we will have a good time and much laughter .

Went to Marks and Spencer sale this morning and bought a stunning new dress , half normal price .

Good wishes to all !!

grrrranny Yep! Pulling 'wellies out of the mud', is an apt description.

Oh the Germans have wonderful words for all sorts of things [as do the Japanese I believe]. Ther's something nice about being able to encapsulate a complicated emotion in a word [shadenfreude;zeitgeist/betrachtungen].

well said crimson. I was trying to think how to reply to gracesmum because I really understand what she wrote as this great sadness overcomes me at times as well. I think there is a long german word for this sadness but I can't remember it. The driving rain and grey skies today don't make for cheerful spirits either. Sometimes we just have to plod, one foot in front of the other, until things ease and, although we may not skip along, at least we're not trying to pull the wellies out of the mud with each step. Eh I don't know where that came from - only hope it makes some kind of sense. for gracesmum

Of course no one is being unreasonable in hating New Year, what you all describe sounds dire. Nor am I being unreasonable in enjoying OUR New Year. We stick as much as we can to the traditional Scottish way of celebrating, fondly remembered from my childhood. So - Hogmany - much cooking and cleaning, beds changed, etc. No drinking until after the bells. Shortbread, Dundee Cake, Black Bun and bridge rolls on the 3 tier cake stand. Out into the garden to see the fireworks at Stirling Castle. First footing to the neighbours and them to us carrying fuel (lump of coal, log or shilling for the meter!), food and drink. Much blethering, singing and dancing - if the Telly is on it will be BBC Alba - I know it is in Gaelic but the music is GREAT.

New Years Day we will have a family lunch at T time (to allow a period for recovery) Broth, Steak Pie and trimmings, Ice Cream and fruit and then maybe more visitors in the evening. I believe the DDs are planning a quiz.
New Years Day+1, sleep, eat leftovers, maybe go to sales? What's not to like?

gracesmum I found your post very touching. Just prior to Christmas, I felt the same way...'though for different reasons. You do not need to "get a grip" because your emotions need to be acknowledged. To weep for sad reasons, isn't weak. It is all part of being a sensitive, good, kind human being. Although I'm unable to cheer you, I do send all good wishes that, like me, and countless others, you will begin to surface and be stronger for having shared your pain.

I think the doctrine of 'only worry about the things that you can do something about as there's no point worrying about things you can't change' is a good one. Do I pay heed to it myself? Of course not .

Good plan, Crimson - memo to self - Get a grip

Do understand gracesmum. I phoned up HQ today to make tentative enquiries about some sort of retirement which will, at least make next year a year of change of some kind. I'm quite pleased that it's New Year because I do want some sort of 'closure' on this one. And I've not slept very well over the past few nights. Shall, however be making some NY resolutions and intend to follow them through. Our poor dogs will be wretched tonight as well [must get the drugs out and start dosing her up]. However, wretched as you might feel, most of your sadness is due to your sadness for the pain that other are going through and, better to be the sort of person of that ilk [which you are] than one who doesn't care, even if the burden does get too much sometimes. Happy New Year to you; let's look back in a Year's time and say 'well, it wasn't too bad, was it?'

I used to wonder why my father as he grew older hated being wished a Happy New Year, and being Scottish, of course much is made of it there. But as he said- what is there to look forward to? Another year of increasing infirmity, loneliness (Mum predeceased him by 6 years) if not poverty, then cetainly not riches. And in case I am making him sound a complete misery, he was anything but and loved seeing his grandchildrren or hearing about their exploits. He was generally known as a cheerful friendly person with a wicked sense of humour, but when he was being honest, well, that was what he felt.
Last night in bed, I had turned the light out, DH was sleeping peacefully beside me and I found the tears running down my cheeks as all the worries and sadnesses of the world - even peripheral ones flooded in; DD's friend, who like her has 2 little children and has been diagnosed with a particularly aggressive form of cancer with a prognosis af 6-12 months at best; youngest DD's psoriatic arthritis and the pain she suffers; DH's health - will it continue to decline and how bad is that going to get - having been there once before, I have an idea; my own ageing- can I look forward to another 15-20 (if that)years of reasonable health or declining faculties? As I said - all sorts of thoughts came flooding in, from the dog to money and I think I probably cried myself to sleep.
Sorry to whinge on here and I hope now this has been said it can be expunged. I found it very frightening as I reckon to be quite a strong and resourceful person, but gosh this was something else.
So am I looking forward to 2013? Hmm. But I can and do wish all here good things - health and good fortune to you all and those you ove.

Nanado (((Hugs))) xx

(((Hugs))) nanado

New Year's Eve hold one very sad memory for us. We'll get through it as best we can, as we have been doing for the last four.

We've ignored it for the past few years - tomorrow's my last chance for a lie-in before I go back to work so I'm not ruining it by having too much to drink or waiting up until all the madness is over.....

mamie I agree totally and posted such on another thread.
* 2012 gone in 17 hours.*

This is what I said about the whole thing on Lil's Bar,

I too hope that it will be better, mainly with regard to the job thing, but all this kissing and hugging (not that I'm averse to kissing and hugging!) and "let's hope this year will be better than the last" type thing on New Years Eve makes we want to puke! Like I said, same old sh%t, with a different number on the end.

Let's be honest, if each year was better than the last, once one had reached a certain age, life would be so utterly perfect that one would barely be able to function for the permanent state of orgasm that would ensue from all that blissfulness!

Me tooooo!!
I just ignore everything and my Xmas decorations (insignificant as they are ) will be coming down today.

Normal life resumed tomorrow.

I hate it, as I've already made very clear on another thread!

New Year's Eve is what you make it.

It has become a tradition in the last few years that my brother and his wife come over for the evening.

We have dinner and then sit around chatting and laughing, trying to last out until midnight when we watch the fireworks on the television and also around and about where I live (from the bedroom window).

Then they go home.

I also get quite excited at the thought of a new year beginning.

I have been staying in Brisbane with my son, DIL and GSs over Christmas. They have gone to stay over night at their friend's house for New Years Eve. Peace for me, I love time to myself and as soon as they left I went for a long bike ride which was lovely. I rode along a bike path and enjoyed looking at some of the lovely old Queenslanders (houses) and as I rode I could see the river and the boat yards and then the sea. There was a lovely breeze and as it was late afternoon the weather here was very pleasant. I think I will make a New Years Resolution for a change to get my bike tyres bindi proofed and go riding when I get back to Victoria. It won't be the same without this lovely scenery and bike paths but I have only taken a couple of days to get back into riding and I love it.