It is illegal and social services would be after you for leaving a 9 yr old alone.
We are in a similar position with regard to parenting our two young grandchildren and escape when possible.... not very often. Our son is in Navy and has to go away a lot. It can be hard to have 2 children again in our 60s...such is life.
When we do get away we like to sit in silence and hear nothing...bliss. My heart goes out to you both, join the club. At the childrens' last school we knew of at least 4 similar families. Just in the childrens' year groups. Must be loads of us!!!
We are well into our 4th year.
To obliterate your address on packaging
Being moved along by someone who "wants your place".
How much do you spend on yourself?