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To not want join my colleagues.......

(21 Posts)
margoescargo Sun 27-Jan-13 19:08:44

My much younger colleague (30's) want to organise social get-togethers, one of their ideas is to go ski-ing on a dry ski slope or maybe sky-diving in a wind tunnel. I'm in my late 50's not particularly agile and certainly not into fitness regimes. Am I being unreasonable to say not this is not for me, I don't have a problem with them going or going along to watch them! I'm worried that I might break something!

I happy to go along to the theatre or a meal, although not keen on the pub crawls. Am I being an old grouch?

whenim64 Sun 27-Jan-13 19:13:28

Just do what you want to do margo (hello, if you are new on here). Make it clear you will dip in and out but welcome being asked. They will understand, I'm sure x

Elegran Sun 27-Jan-13 19:15:56

Tell then you will come along to watch and laugh, and will bring a big box of plasters and a bag of sweeties for administering first-aid.

No. You are not being a grouch, you are being a grownup. If they want to break a limb, that is their choice, but you don't have to break yours.

Bags Sun 27-Jan-13 19:17:47

Don't feel obliged to take part in any activities that don't appeal to you, margo. If you just say it's not your thing when it isn't, I'm sure the younger people will understand. I know this works as I do it myself. Good luck.

Grannyknot Sun 27-Jan-13 19:23:07

Margo not at all. Be flattered that they invited you, and then say in the nicest possible way "It's not for me". smile

margoescargo Sun 27-Jan-13 20:00:21

Thank you all, I feel much better now about saying no, and as Elegran says I shall take a big box of plasters and sweeties!

Elegran Sun 27-Jan-13 20:13:21

If the sweeties are not needed to console the injured, everyone will be in need of them for sustenance once the energetic stuff is over!

Nelliemoser Sun 27-Jan-13 22:56:19

martgoes That is a bit more than a fitness regime! It sounds bloody dangerous to me! grin
No you are not unreasonable! Do what you feel comfortable with. If you want to show willing to be involved, go along to watch as it might be fun but only choose the activities you feel comfortable with.

HildaW Mon 28-Jan-13 14:30:47

We cant all be interested in the same things.....age has little to do with it..we are just all individuals. Another time perhaps you could suggest making a list of lots of different things.....Theatre, skittles/bowling, pub, meal etc etc and get folks to indicate their preferences. Then a sort of time table could be drawn up for the next few months. But to be quite honest work life and social life combos can be a real mine field. Just because we work well with some folks does not mean we actually enjoy spending social time with them so dont be afraid to smile sweetly, sound enthusiastic but just say 'its not for me thanks but let me know when you arrange something I'm a bit more into!'

glammanana Mon 28-Jan-13 14:41:29

Not an old grouch at all they will understand if you tell them you will support them but not participate in their more robust activities but you will enjoy the more relaxed welcome if you are a newbie.

soop Mon 28-Jan-13 15:22:09

I can think of one outing that I would do just about anything not to be invited to...and that's a Hen night. As for other social gatherings, hmm if what's proposed isn't your thing, it's certainly not rude to say so.

Mey Mon 28-Jan-13 21:14:31

Certainly not being unresonable margoescargo perfectly understandable that you do not wish to take part in dry ski slope. I am sure I wouldn't want to either.

granniesruntoo Mon 28-Jan-13 21:27:22

When I was on holiday hiking in Peru we oldies were asked to join in the volleyball with the youngsters and locals. I declined but appointed myself photographer. They left me their cameras and I recorded their fun- suited all parties!

mrsmopp Wed 30-Jan-13 21:21:21

Try asking them if they'd like to join you for an evening at the local bingo hall, or a whist drive, or Beetle drive or similar?
There, you see, you wouldn't think that they were being unreasonable if they refused, would you?
Horses for courses as they say, each to their own. It's not a problem. Don't worry. X

glassortwo Wed 30-Jan-13 21:23:12

They will love a game of bingo.

soop Thu 31-Jan-13 13:40:35

glass A couple of bouncers [and me wearing a straightjacket] couldn't drag me into a bingo hall.

glassortwo Thu 31-Jan-13 13:46:35

grin grin soop I was being a bit naughty last night.

gracesmum Thu 31-Jan-13 14:04:56

Margoescargo is in her 50's not her 90's mrsmopp grin I went to a beetle drive once - not the most fun I have ever had shock being used as [yawn] emoticon, but it did beat the bingo evening somebody suggested for our village Thursday group. Lost the will to live very early on. I think these activities, while I admit they may be enjoyed by all ages, serve only to reinforce ths doddering old granny image margo is keen to avoid. The skydiving sounds fun though- you are only a few feet off the ground in a vertical wind tunnel - why not give it a go?

soop Thu 31-Jan-13 18:09:24

glass...Do tell...grin

mrsmopp Thu 31-Jan-13 18:19:14

Wasn't implying that margo was a member of the bingo brigade! Just making the point that her colleagues wouldn't hesitate to turn down an invite to something they didn't want to go to. So the reverse applies, and it is not unreasonable for margo not to want to join her colleagues.

gracesmum Thu 31-Jan-13 22:53:31

I get it mrsmopp smile