Hi, I'm very new to Gransnet, I'm a very new Grandma, and I'd like some advice please! I live 80 miles away from my son, daughter in law and their lovely little girl and I see them as much as time (and money) allow. I live on a state pension plus a very small private pension, so money is always tight. My son has indicated recently that he feels I should move to be nearer them; he says it's because the older I get (I'm 64 - yes, absolutely ancient!) the more I'm likely to need their help, but I think it's more because they'd like some help with the baby when DIL returns to work. Nothing would give me more pleasure, but I can't afford the petrol to go up there that frequently and more importantly, I love where I live, I have a gorgeous new man in my life and I don't feel I should be expected to give that up for their benefit. I'm happier now than I've ever been after 38 years of married misery. But am I being unreasonable? My son says he would hope I'd put family loyalty first.