Close the door and give me just one minute with this 'man'.

Sorry to hear your news Marelli

So sorry, Marelli, I do hope she comes back to you soon

So sorry to hear that you are 'estranged' again. I too hope that it is just a temporary thing, that your DD has withdrawn into herself until she comes to terms with her terrible experience.

I am interested in your mention of the Weebles. I had a colleague at Women's Aid who had been horrendously abused and threatened in her first marriage. She always said that the best way to deal with attacks, shocks, bad news, etc. was to rock back like a Weeble then slowly regain equilibrium, rather than attempt to 'take it on the chin' and stand firm. a very wise strategy I think.

I've just read your up-date marelli and agree with everyone who has said your DD may just be coping with her emotions,hopefully once this horrible person has been dealt with by the Court it will bring her closeure and she will find her way back to you. ((hugs)) from me to you.x

We do, anno. Remember that toy in the 70's? It used to be advertised as, 'Weebles wobble but they don't fall down!' Don't we all see ourselves there sometimes?

Mothers often get to be the punch bags.

You are right, Marelli we do just keep "getting on with it" but sometimes it just wears us down. As my aunt used to say "you can't do right for doing wrong" or something like that. and I think we all feel that way at times. I am sure she doesn't realise how much she is hurting you. Take care.

Marelli (((hugs)))

anno, you may be right. She's a very calm person, and someone who believes in Peace and Love and the rights of the individual. However, I don't seem to come into that equation .

Sorry, I meant DD has always been angry with me, not DH! Although he's been angry with me sometimes, I suppose!

She may be one of those unfortunate people for whom anger is a default position. Or it could be a defence against having to feel other emotions.

Marelli...

bags, I'm sorry, our posts more or less crossed. You may be right and I hope you are (and absent, thank you xx).
DH has always been angry with me, and I don't really know why. However, I'll keep on trying.
I do so appreciate you all. .

I think bags may have hit the nail on the head with her suggestion that withdrawal from more or less everything and everyone, which can often seem unreasonable or meaningless to others, is a way of coping with horrendous events. I hope that once all this is behind your daughter, she will once again return to the fold.

So sorry Marelli, you are in my thoughts {{{hug}}} x

glass and Tegan ! I'll be ok, no doubt - we just get on with it, don't we! xx

marelli, your daughter knows you love her and she loves you. This is just her way of coping with something horrific. Some people cope by withdrawing into themselves. Keep hoping and we'll all keep hoping with you that she will cope well and open up to her mum again. Sending love from the west

Just got home Marelli; sending you a big hug...xx

marelli you know I am here if you need me, {{{{hug}}}} xxxxx

kitty, the estrangement came about just before Witness Support offered their services. I don't know how she's been supported and this has made it doubly hard. Knowing DD, who, as reported in the newspaper, responded to the attacker by yelling at him, she may have decided not to accept much support from them.
Thank you. All of you. I'm trying not to be a wimp, but keep failing rather!

Marelli good news that your DD didn't have to give evidence - you must both be so relieved. I'm very sad that she has turned away from you again but as Nightowl said, it may be a reaction to everything that has happened. Has she had any support during the wait for the trial?

GN is good at being here for each other, so talk to us if you want to.

So sad for you Marelli after being reconciled and the having to go through the pain again. Sometimes life is just shitty! for you. I hope she realises how much you love her and heals the rift she created.

So very sorry to hear that Marelli, I know how much it meant to you when you were reconciled. I do hope it's temporary, perhaps a reaction to what has happened to her ((((hugs))))

Marelli, I know exactly how it feels to have a daughter turn away from you. I hope that someday she will come to understand that you love and value her.
At least she has the comfort of knowing that her attacker has pleaded guilty - I hope he still gets a custodial sentence for such a cowardly act.

Thinking of you.