How do you cope when you cannot see your grandchild?
I wrote on here a while ago without going into all the details again I am being punished by my sons controlling girlfriend ..
.my son is always at my house crying on our shoulder because his partner is abusive the more we help him the more she hates us ...
we never get involved by saying things I have never said how I truly feel about the abusive way she treats my son ...
her way of gaining control is by withholding the grandchild away from us as much as possible but in the meantime she has her family heavily involved i am always seeing pictures on Facebook of other people with her..
it's like an arrow in my heart..the very few times I am allowed some access my son walks through the door and says that he is only allowed to stay half an hour then he makes us feel on edge by sitting through the visit asking the the time every five minutes
I actually don't know how to cope with this anymore I always ask if I can see her take her places have her over but I am never allowed it breaks my heart so many tears I have cried on my pillow I feel sick to my stomach
I was told at Xmas I wasn't allowed to see her open her presents the presents which they dictated Ibuy ...that I was just to drop them off I am not welcome in her house so I am not allowed to pop over for a visit even though they just live down the road...the same happened on her birthday even though all her family were there
My son loves me but if he tries to make a stance against her wishes she goes mad but in the same breath he allows her to dictate...
I am not a bad person I am heartbroken by this how am I going to cope ? How do you cope ?
I feel I can't confront her because she is so unstable ...we walk around on eggshells for fear of upsetting her ..
Any advice x
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