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Smile your being watched

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Kiora Sun 15-Sep-13 20:36:49

My usually lovely ex sister in law has posted a very old not particularly flattering photo of me on Facebook. It's the second time she's done it. She obviously thinks it hilarious. Trouble is I don't. I would hate to fall out with her. So this time I lied and asked her to take it off because my sister was upset by it. Am I being unreasonably sensitive. How do others cope with this. It's getting so as your scared to go out because the next day you'll be plastered all over some social media for all to see. Now in the days before social networking I never objected people photographing me and us having a hoot looking through them but now I feel as if my privacy is constantly being invaded.

glammanana Sun 15-Sep-13 20:43:06

Kiora I'm totally with you on this one one of my DSs friends was out with pals and photo's of him with a group of guy's and girls appeared on FB his long term girlfriend could not be convinced it was just a daft night out with pals and finished their relationship all because someone just had to post the photographs and in all honesty they where harmless fun,but with drastic consiquences.

Sue162 Sun 15-Sep-13 20:44:17

No, Kiora, I don't think you are being unusually sensitive. My heart sinks when members of the family post photos of me which make me shudder! However, they are all much younger and I don't think they realise that some Grans still would like to see themselves as reasonably attractive! Unfortunately, I think you have to grin and bear it rather than fall out over it. I make a joke and say "just you wait, I'll find a rotten pic of you to post" with a big smile on my face to hide the grumpy old woman within! LOL! wink

vampirequeen Sun 15-Sep-13 22:53:11

I've made it clear to everyone that I don't want my picture to appear on facebook and I expect them to respect my wishes.

Faye Sun 15-Sep-13 23:21:39

I am not at all photogenic and get it while Victoria Beckham doesn't smile in photos. My daughter posted a photo of my GDs and me on FB on Mother's Day and I asked her to remove it. Sometimes I just look odd in photos and other people have commented on it. About six years ago I had a photo taken for a licence and the young man told me he would take another as it didn't look right. I told him not to worry as I just don't take very good photos and it would do.

Eloethan Mon 16-Sep-13 00:31:39

She seems to be rather insensitive, or maybe she's just got a weird sense of humour. Hopefully, now you've asked her to remove it - even though you said it was your sister who was upset - she'll get the message and not do it again.

jeanie99 Mon 16-Sep-13 08:51:51

If a person uploads a photograph onto the www knowing the person in question doesn't want the world see, then as far as I am concerned they are not worth knowing.

Why would anyone cause upset to a person they call a friend it's unthinkable.
Family and friends are people we care about and wouldn't do anything to course them distress.

tanith Mon 16-Sep-13 09:03:00

My picture is often tagged on Facebook by my grandchildren some are good some are awful but as I have my privacy settings set to only friends and family, who have all seen me at my best and worst anyway why would it bother me.. I do think people get too touchy about stuff like this and think that the whole world is going to bother searching around for photos of themselves when in reality no one is that bothered and even if they are seen at our age we should be 'over' the whole caring what others think.

felice Mon 16-Sep-13 11:59:14

A very good friend of my daughter is obsessed with posting photographs on FB, then she had a go at someone for re-posting them, as she never asks if we want our photos posted I think it is a right cheek, she has posted some awful photos of me, i do not take a good photo at the best of times and just hate to see her advancing with her camera.

janerowena Mon 16-Sep-13 12:06:52

I hate it too, my daughter has stopped doing it and has removed all tags. My OH is another matter - we spent all day at the Louvre and I was exhausted. He took a photo of me in front of the Mona Lisa at around 8pm and he posted it on his fb page without showing it to me first. In it I looked a good twenty years older than I did in the ones he took earlier in the day. I was very upset, but as we are not 'friends' with each other I only found it three weeks later. Too late. He, however, saw nothing wrong with it. He said 'but look, I have even put this comment!'

It said

'A photo of janerowena looking very tired after an exhausting day of sightseeing'.



Greatnan Mon 16-Sep-13 12:51:01

I am sure he thought you would be pleased! Yes - men can be a tad insensitive. When I was concerned about my appearance before a social event, my ex-husband would say ' Don't worry, nobody will be looking at you'. Just another reason why he is an ex!

AlieOxon Mon 16-Sep-13 13:20:24

I don't do Facebook, and won't.
I was invited once by someone I was communicating with on a forum - and was shocked by what was included in the invite, it seemed like FB had been into my personal address book.
So I didn't, and was never contacted by that person again.....

My daughter had problems when her son and his girlfriend, who she was great friends with, broke up and although she like the new girlfriend, she couldn't put pics of both up!!

Backagain Mon 16-Sep-13 13:52:55

I needed a new email account the other day and activated a gmail one I had never, ever used. Finding my way around it I clicked on "pictures" and lo and behold there were two photos DS had taken (with a Galaxy Note I had just tried out and passed on to him) and then emailed to me at my hotmail account. One was of the first page of my passport shock shock.
And Facebook - don't get me started!
Talk about Big Brother angry