Embracing Old Age

I've an hourglass figure, me.............except the sand has all drained to the bottom.

This thread is amusing in a way, but part of me just wants to suggest that those of you who don't have daily pain to deal with until you are getting old should stop moaning and thank your lucky stars you haven't had to deal with it since your late teens. Sorry, but...

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I don't think it works like that thatbags

It would be like saying if you lost a leg you couldn't complain because someone else had lost two, and they couldn't complain because someone else lost both legs and an arm.

I'm sorry you have had to deal with pain for so long though.

I woke up this morning having slept unusually well read this thread and think I will stay in bed . Seriously, it is good to know I am not alone and that we can laugh at ourselves to everyone.

It's good to have a jokey sort of moan together. No doubt we have all had other stuff to put up with in our lives. Younger people usually just get on with it, as, indeed, older people have to.

Some of these posts make me realise how lucky I am. Loads of sympathy all round.

Nah! Sod flowers! !!!

True, petallus, about how it works, but I'm allowed to be grumpy too sometimes.

Doesn't pay to be usually upbeat. People are shocked when you complain.

And anyway, I believe in embracing age with a smile on the whole.

bags I think it makes us even more sympathetic to the pain that you and others have to bear, it's just a nasty shock when it happens overnight, as it were.
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Yep. It's a nasty shock when you're nineteen as well and it happens overnight. It stops being a shock after a few years and just becomes a pain. So to speak.

Thanks for the cake(s). I'll make some

I suppose I'm just saying that things do start to go wrong in old age. That's what aging is – things getting past their best. Acceptance makes annoying but inevitable stuff easier to deal with, I find.

I'll bugger off now. Wouldn't want to put a damper on things. Not for long anyway!

I hope everyone's aches and pains and dissatisfactions are not too bothersome.

Yes Bags darling. And we hope your --much publicised- troubles are not too bad either.

Bags I think that most people would empathise with anyone who has had to manage a chronic illness from an early age. However the fact that I know
other people may have the same or similar situation to me does not make my discomfort any less painful /difficult/upsetting!

Hope you are not having a painful day today. [tea]

JO8 - what was that nasty little dig about? Trust you - clearly back on form now!

bluebell there's a bit of pot and kettle in your comment! Jingle is not being nasty but you do seem to like to have a go at her a lot. Why is that?

The difference as I see it is that if you have had to manage chronic pain ( or any other chronic illness) from a young age you have two choices - you become a moaning martyr to it all and nobody wants to know or you just get on it with it, you don't moan, you manage it in a variety of ways which minimises the problem but means you are denied lots of opportunities and experiences that your fully able bodies friends naturally take for granted. You value your friends who you know are aware of your physical limitations and handle it a a quiet way that doesn't draw attention to you and you thank your lucky stars if you are bright, intelligent and well- educated as you have a range if interests and opportunities (including employment) that are open to you and can be enjoyed without physical effort. However, you have had years/decades of this and so when the natural ageing process
catches up with your contempories, it can produce a wry smile.

Gaga - 'much publicised troubles' - not kind!!

Bags your chronic pain is not 'much publicised' so take no notice. Having met you in person a year or so ago, you didn't mention then how debilitating it can be for you. It does come across in occasional posts that you are having a bad/painful time. But much publicised? No!

My mother had rheumatoid arthritis from her mid-twenties and was disabled by it. Attempts to control and relieve her pain included being hospitalised, made to rest, have physiology, gold injections, experimental new treatments and so on. Old age brought further pain and disability. She got on wth things and didn't make a fuss - would knit for the children to try to keep her fingers working. She didn't tell us how bad the pain was - it was obvious.

Damn you iPad - you slipped the wrong word in......should say 'she had physio' not physiology

Gaga- anything more to add to justify your comment that JO was not being nasty?

I regret saying 'much publicised'.

'Well aired' would have been much better.

I am never off form bluebs I am always my honest self.

Hand that spade up out of that hole you're digging, Jingle!

Even 'well aired would be tactless. We are far more likely to hear about Bags's activities and achievements than about her aches. Archery, Cubs, many handicrafts, maintaining her garden...I don't think I had as many irons in the fire even when I was her age!