Can I just put in a word for some of the NHS at least? I am in Scotland, which helps, and it worries me that reports from England are so bad.
My mother died earlier this year after a fairly long decline, mentally and physically. The district nurses who helped her with her catheter were kind and caring, but the small local hospital where she spent the last 4 months of her life (she should have gone into a home, but by the time we found a place she was too ill) gave her the best possible care involving a lot of pretty heavy and personal nursing. The staff, nursing and medical, were kind to her and also to us, and as we all came from a long way from where she was, in the Borders, they allowed us to visit at almost any time (except, understandably, meal times) that any of us could manage. The care could only be described as wonderful.
The NHS in England is sadly disintegrating and I don't know what you can do about it, but I hope you can find some answer.