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Grannyknot Wed 04-Dec-13 08:24:23

My daughter bought her boyfriend a pair of Hunter wellies because he wanted only those, and they ended up on e-bay, for exactly the reason Stansgran mentions above. Lessons learnt all round.

thatbags Wed 04-Dec-13 08:16:33

Why do Hunter wellies need coordinating socks? Rhetorical question.

You don't have to buy what has been requested. Sympathy though; I wouldn't like to be in the position you're in. I'm just wondering if pretending to be a bit thick and getting the wrong kind of wellies and the wrong kind of socks (both perfectly usable of course) would get the message across that you might not be, ahem, "reliable" as a spender on label-gear.

On the other hand, if you can easily afford what has been requested, I think I'd go along with what Jane suggested and just get them. They are VG wellies, especially for adults who don't grow out of them.

janeainsworth Wed 04-Dec-13 08:07:44

Suzie I'm not sure whether you are objecting to the Hunter wellies because you don't want to spend that amount of money on your DGD anyway, having already bought her the Duplo, or whether you are objecting to the Hunter wellies themselves. Or perhaps both.

Personally I think that if I'm giving my DCs money, either for themselves or the DGCs, then it's entirely up to them what they spend it on.

I also think that Hunter wellies for 2 year-olds that cost £40 are ridiculous.

Complicated, isn't it? If you can afford the £40, buy the wellies and say nothing!

Grannyknot Wed 04-Dec-13 08:03:11

suzieq ouch... I don't see a way out for you because if you buy anything other than Hunter wellies you will be wasting your money because they won't be worn. Or you could explain that you are not buying the Hunter wellies and why, but that would also cause problems.

We have a young nephew for whom it is all about labels. The thing is, he is not actually that young (he is 30) and doesn't have much money, but comes here the other day with a Valentino scarf for goodness sake. He paid a fortune for it, and I started having the "But, it's a scarf and I could have knitted you one" conversation with him until I realised I was wasting my time.

By the way, those values you mention are not exclusive to lefties! My mother taught us all of those and I'd never have described her as left wing.

Stansgran Wed 04-Dec-13 08:02:46

And she'll probably grow out of them as she unwraps them. Buy her a pair with frogs faces saying you couldn't resist and say they hadn't the right size in the hunters. The hunters have narrow ankles and don't suit wide feet so I wouldn't buy them without the child trying them on. I have a problem the other way. MyDGD often has wet feet because her shoes are worn through and the DD and SIL are too busy to notice. I try to equip her when she stays with me.

suzieq Wed 04-Dec-13 07:47:27

My background is one of being careful with money and valuing skills, health, education, the environment -fairly lefty all round. My son is married to someone who sees how things look as very important.
We've bought some duplo for our two-year-old granddaughter because she has few toys that are encouraging her fine motor skills and she enjoys playing with what she already has. We have been asked also to buy some wellies for her and the ones requested are Hunter, which will also need the coordinating socks. Not much change from £40 if we are lucky. I have never been interested in brands for their own sake and think this is completely ridiculous - the child doesn't care what she wears. I don't think she has ever been fitted for properly supportive shoes and wears what her mum and other grandmother think are pretty -often they buy them without fitting.
As an unfortunate contrast, our daughter, of necessity, lives very frugally.
I know I must work it out for myself, but has anyone else been caught in this quandary? I must resolve it without upsetting a person who has joined our family but whose values and what she cares about are so different to mine.