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Thistledoo Tue 17-Jun-14 14:03:35

I was wondering if any other GNs have had a similar experience to the one I had on Sunday. My DS came to visit with grandchildren, little girl aged 23 months and boy aged four. As it was such a beautiful day we were all out in the garden, myself and DH chasing children around the lawn and generally having fun. DS was sitting watching, and playing on his mobile phone as usual. I was pretending to race DGD up the lawn say to her, I am gong to catch you...... I then caught her picked her up and swung her round saying as I did so, gottya you little minx. With that my DS rounded on me with some anger saying he didn't like me using that word. I questioned him as to why , and what did he think I meant. I was told this was very disrespectful and derogatory to his daughter. I was gobsmacked and upset to say the least, I was only playing and having fun with the toddler. I was so upset in fact that I left the garden and went into the kitchen to prepare the evening meal. They then left without saying goodbye. I can remember reading a comic strip way back in my youth with a character by that name. But DH looked up the true definition in the oxford dictionary and it really is a derogatory term so why is it used so widely. I was really upset and didn't sleep on Sunday night. I would really appreciate some comments about this difficult subject.

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 19-Jun-14 13:30:56

Can be a funny lot, the royals.

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 19-Jun-14 13:30:29

I didn't like to say anything in case I was wrong. grin

Ana Thu 19-Jun-14 13:27:21

(apart from you, jingl)

Ana Thu 19-Jun-14 13:25:46

I've just googled, and apparently Prince Edward had the same nickname when he was young! (Goodness knows why...)

Thanks for enlightening us, Hunt - I think we were all too focused on the 'rude' possibilities grin

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 19-Jun-14 13:24:47

It's alright Hunt. It was pretty obvious! hmm grin

Hunt Thu 19-Jun-14 13:10:35

Sorry to have caused such puzzlement. If I say he would have been accused of racism. The point is his little childhood nickname has now become a sacking offence . I believe one of Prince Charles friends had the same nickname.

Rowantree Thu 19-Jun-14 10:38:09

But going back to thistledoo - has you son or his family contacted you since? If not, I wonder what - or who - will break the deadlock. sigh

Rowantree Thu 19-Jun-14 10:36:43

I never 'ad no 'alo anyway....grin

NanKate Thu 19-Jun-14 07:27:02

I agree with you Papaoscar about us going PC mad, in fact I started a new thread on that subject last night. I have included 3 Tommy Cooper jokes - Look under 'Am I being unreasonable' which might make you chuckle. grin

grumppa Thu 19-Jun-14 00:35:41

Back to Nigel - it is an anagram of ingle. Is this a rare piece of Yorkshire rhyming slang, i.e. ingle nook = f**k?

seasider Wed 18-Jun-14 23:50:47

Your son wants to get over himself and show you some respect. Send him a copy of
the Beano with Minnie the minx highlighted. He should apologise to you.angry

GillT57 Wed 18-Jun-14 23:01:57

The late Frankie Howerd would likely have been picked up as part of Operation Yew Tree by now so lets not romanticise the past. Going by the age of the companion that I saw him with in Corfu, hand in hand, he would certainly be helping the police with their inquiries. Not brilliant.

papaoscar Wed 18-Jun-14 22:19:10

I give up with some of this pc drivel. I remember the late Frankie Howard reducing a theatre audience to helpless laughter for some minutes with just nods and winks only, but no words. Brilliant! What would the pc police have made of that?

numberplease Wed 18-Jun-14 21:49:13

A friend who lives in Lanzarote often makes me smile when she says it`s very hot, or very windy, down her back passage!

Ana Wed 18-Jun-14 21:44:24

Have you read the other posts on this thread, papaoscar, giving other interpretations of the word 'minx'? It's not just about Minnie any more (apparently!).

papaoscar Wed 18-Jun-14 21:40:31

Looked up Minnie and confirmed she was a harmless girl comic character in the Beano in the 1950s, so your DS, T-Doo, was totally out of order. That prompted me to think what we could do when faced with that sort of situation and I had an idea. Does anybody remember the Monty Python Spanish Inquisition who would appear at any time and cause mayhem. We could have a Flying Granset Team of Judges who would turn up and sort out family transgressors on the spot in very loud voices and dole out penalties. Any volunteers?

Deedaa Wed 18-Jun-14 21:32:42

Thanks jingle mines gone a bit rusty grin

papaoscar Wed 18-Jun-14 21:24:50

T-Doo, your DS should be thoroughly ashamed of himself. Give him a good dressing-down and demand an apology! Minnie the Minx was a harmless cartoon character, I think, a very long time ago.

Iam64 Wed 18-Jun-14 21:22:11

I loved the halo jingle.

Thistledo has had a very upsetting experience, to put it mildly. I do hope things move on with no further conflict thistle x

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 18-Jun-14 20:27:04

Perhaps we've insulted thistledoo's DS enough now?! grin

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 18-Jun-14 20:25:37

for anyone who might have mislaid theirs

Rowantree Wed 18-Jun-14 20:23:04

Thistledoo, when I read your post, my heart turned over and I felt so sad for you. I'd have cried, definitely - because your DS's treatment of you was unjust and over the top. He MUST know how much you love your DGD and that you'd never do or say anything hurtful. Knowing that, if he objected to the use of a term, a jokey, quiet aside would have been appropriate, not this hormonal huff of dramatically walking out! What on earth did they tell the children??? It must feel utterly horrible for you and no wonder you got no sleep. You are obviously a loving, caring and lovely mother and grandmother and your DS and his family should be very glad that they have you at all. I really hope they come down to earth (or remove their collective heads from up their backsides) and have the humility to apologise to you. flowers.

MiceElf Wed 18-Jun-14 20:18:34

Agreed, Anno. My children are considerate and respectful, even though they do tease a little. I think 'that generation' are lovely and a credit to their parents, although there may be one or two exceptions.

annodomini Wed 18-Jun-14 19:55:59

Smileless, please don't generalise about the younger generation. I have no complaints about my two and I don't think they have any grounds for complaint about me.

NanKate Wed 18-Jun-14 19:09:48

I was reading a Noddy book to my 3 year old GS recently and noticed how it had been modernised to represent our diverse community. To be honest I much prefer the original version with the cute black g.......s and the chap with large auditory appendages.

However, I noticed the female doll had been rather sexualised, to be honest I don't remember a female doll in the original.

My grandparents were in the Music Hall and my Grandmother wrote the scripts. Grandad would make jokes on stage about his wife, which would now be deemed inappropriate. My Nan would laugh as she had written the jokes.grin

I miss the politically incorrect UK where people could tease each other without taking exception.