Thistledoo, when I read your post, my heart turned over and I felt so sad for you. I'd have cried, definitely - because your DS's treatment of you was unjust and over the top. He MUST know how much you love your DGD and that you'd never do or say anything hurtful. Knowing that, if he objected to the use of a term, a jokey, quiet aside would have been appropriate, not this hormonal huff of dramatically walking out! What on earth did they tell the children??? It must feel utterly horrible for you and no wonder you got no sleep. You are obviously a loving, caring and lovely mother and grandmother and your DS and his family should be very glad that they have you at all. I really hope they come down to earth (or remove their collective heads from up their backsides) and have the humility to apologise to you.
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