I am grandparent to one beautiful little boy, almost a year old.
I have a good relationship with my daughter & son-in-law. They visit me frequently and I regularly have the opportunity to look after him when they are working. On the outside everything would appear to be pretty much perfect and balanced.
However, I've been struggling with a few issues & insecurities. These come about when my own mum is involved.
I feel that my daughter is closer to my mum than me and it makes me feel so sad. I cannot think of any occasion that my daughter has visited me that my own mum hasn't appeared on the scene. I'm lucky to get 10 minutes with my daughter before my mum's tapping on the door and I feel starts taking over. I think my daughter has more time for my mum than she does me and that hurts like hell. I can't say anything to anyone, I fear loyalties becoming divided and me losing out!
I try to behave in a respectful way, allowing my daughter to live her own life with her own little family with some privacy. But feel whilst I am stepping backwards, giving my daughter 'space' my mum is stepping into where my shoes were. My mum knows everything going on in my daughters life and I am always learning things via her.
If we go out somewhere, mum's the one pushing the baby, whilst I lag behind almost feeling in the way.
Really struggling with this whole situation because as upset as I often feel I feel guilty as hell, running down my own mum, which just isn't right.
Any advice would be appreciated, thankyou
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