My DS had his first girlfriend over Christmas until two weeks ago. As it worked out, she didn't come to our house at all. But the conversation did occur between myself and DS about her going up to his room. He is 17, 18 in May, she was 16 nearly 17. I said that I didn't want her to be going up to his bedroom on their own even though they were allowed at her house to do this. I have had a DD a teen and she was allowed her boyfriends up to her room. It feels different though for him.
My reasoning is that if my DS's girlfriend got pregnant (my DS isn't the love 'em and leave 'em kind) and it was on my property I would feel responsible and answerable to her parents but if my DD had got pregnant then it would be my fault for letting her boyfriends stay over. If DS's girlfriend got pregnant on her own turf then it would be her parents responsibility, along with my DS too, obviously.
I talk to him about sex, contraception and we have always had a very open relationship so nothing wrong there, it's not that, it's feeling responsible for someone else's daughter, I suppose.
Anyone else agree or am I being too old fashioned as usual?
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