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In thinking 'New Man' is morphing into a thoughtless, self-centred individual?

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merlotgran Tue 01-Sep-15 13:09:19

A few years ago my Dsis-in-law and I were at a family gathering watching our adult sons fussing around their little girls, making sure they were wearing hats, sunblock etc. They were both good cooks and happy to do their fair share of the housework as both their wives worked full-time.

We commented on how things had changed as we're both married to ‘Old Man’ and although they were hard working husbands, they expected us to take care of just about everything to do with the home and children.

Something is happening to 'New Man' (not all though, thank goodness) and I don’t much like it. I know quite a few who are separated or divorced. They’ve had a taste of family life but now they want their own homes, flashy cars, a healthy bank account, foreign holidays and all without the encumbrance of people who might have a few needs and ideas of their own.

One divorced, forty something man of DD’s acquaintance has a sign on the wall of his newly installed kitchen…..’My house, my rules!’

Maybe Old Man wasn’t so bad after all. hmm

kittylester Tue 01-Sep-15 13:22:26

DD3 married an 'Old Man' and much good it did her! Your 'New Man' aptly describes him though!

ninathenana Tue 01-Sep-15 13:35:03

Some of us are lucky enough to have found the best of both smile
DH changed as many nappies and made and fed as many bottles as I did was very happy rolling around the floor with children jumping all over him. He's a good cook and mucks in with housework. He's a treasure.
I do see your point merlot

janeainsworth Tue 01-Sep-15 15:21:32

I'm quite happy being an Old Woman Merlot.
I like being in charge of my areas of expertise, leaving MrA to fix the cars and other mechanical devices, do the painting and decorating and general household maintenance.

soontobe Tue 01-Sep-15 16:05:18

Did they leave family life because they were bored with it? Angry? I suppose it makes a difference why they left?

FarNorth Tue 01-Sep-15 16:13:05

So have your DSs regressed, merlotgran?

merlotgran Tue 01-Sep-15 18:47:12

No, far from it, FarNorth.

annodomini Tue 01-Sep-15 19:03:15

My DSs, now in their 40s are very well adjusted 'new men'. They do their fair share of tasks and taxi-ing children around to their many activities. And they are good to their old mum too!

Lona Tue 01-Sep-15 19:26:10

Yes, my DS is really good too. He washes, irons and does a lot of cooking and shops too. Unfortunately, he's mostly taken for granted!

Lona Tue 01-Sep-15 19:27:55

Actually, my dad was the same. He could turn his hand to most things and always helped mum.

annodomini Tue 01-Sep-15 20:05:25

My mum was, like many of her generation as stay-at-home mum, so my dad's tasks were mainly to do with the garden and d-i-y. However, when mum died, he turned out to be unexpectedly domesticated, and a reasonable cook.