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Galen Mon 26-Oct-15 22:28:22

I have darling daughter and dgds staying for a few days.
It's lovely to see them, but!
The very high pitched continuous screams and yells from them, particularly the two year old, I am finding very exhausting.
This is probably because I normally live on my own in a very quiet road with no extraneous noise apart from radio 4 and birdsong.
I love them all dearly:-- but?

Victoria08 Thu 29-Oct-15 16:50:53

That's funny, as my baby grandson nearly always falls asleep in car seat. He seems very safe and snug in it.

Nelliemoser Thu 29-Oct-15 00:20:54

My baby grandson just 6 months hates going in the car and in his car seat and just screams his head off.
This then really uspets his three yr old big brother The little perisher stops the moment he gets taken out of the car but it is very distracting and you cannot reason with a child of that age.

I do feel sorry for my daughter and family. I was surprised he did not just fall asleep but after Googling the problem it seems that a number of babies do this.

Faye Thu 29-Oct-15 00:05:52

You have it easy Galen I had four DGC for two weeks during school holidays with two more here most nights and every day and with no parent to help. The noise level was high but the older ones 10,9 and 7 were very helpful. I crawled into bed every night and lost weight as I forgot (didn't have time) to eat I was so exhausted. I kept thinking how do people with six children cope.

Two for a few days with their mother is a walk in the park. thlgrin

Elrel Thu 29-Oct-15 00:05:44

Tigger - you've reminded me of something my grandfather told me 70 years ago:
A little boy kept a diary and wrote one day 'Went to Grandma's, she was glad.' The next day he wrote 'Came home from Grandma's, she was glad.'

I can feel very lonely when they've all gone. Bottles in the dishwasher, books on the shelf, toys Back in boxes, teenagers' damp towels off in the wash. Peace reigns, a cup of tea and tv - but somehow the life has gone out of the house and all the noise and backache was so worth their company.

Victoria08 Wed 28-Oct-15 16:55:43

I think grandma 2213, you are being taken advantage of. At the age of 70, I am currently helping my daughter who has a two month old baby.
I go to her house twice a week, early in morning so she can go back to bed for a few hours and catch up on sleep.
While I love looking after Gson, I feel absolutely knackered when I get home and put my feet up.

I certainly wouldn't, or couldn't do it for any longer. All the bending down to change nappies and burping etc, really does my back in. Unfortunately he has got severe acid reflux and doesn't sleep an awful,lot. But hey! If we can help, we will, won't we?.

grandMattie Wed 28-Oct-15 16:29:06

Perhaps you could try my ploy? I told my children they were absoltuely not allowed to scream or shriek unless they were warning me about a crocodile coming into the garden - this from the deepest Hampshire at the time! and it worked... GIve it a try

jollyg Wed 28-Oct-15 14:03:12

Enjoy your champagne [or whatever cocktails]. And relax

It was only a short visit.

Cushions are meant to be used to make a den and they jump out to welcome you into their play area.

What sort of a mum were you?

Remember play doh which stuck to the carpet, and childrens parties where cake an crisps were trodden into any corner where there was space.

Have you a pic with you and the 'monkey'pair

Do please post

Galen Wed 28-Oct-15 13:36:53

Toys not tos

Galen Wed 28-Oct-15 13:36:30

Wow! Peace and quiet! Tos put away so no more graggy traps on the way to the loo or kitchen.
Kate is here so the mess has been vacuumed up. The furniture is in its usual places and the cushions are where they belong on the sofa and chairs. ( instead of in a heap in a corner. The little Devils Angels don't approve of cushions where they should be)

rosesarered Wed 28-Oct-15 12:45:07

Not all children are 'shriekers' but an awful lot nowadays do seem to be.
our youngest DGS aged Three is a chatterer, talks non stop, tells little anecdotes! Not noisy though.

Sweetness1 Wed 28-Oct-15 12:20:58

I have 5 grandsons under 8..they're all soooo noisy.. ..temporarily, since July, I have had 2 of them 3yr old and 5 yr old living with us with darling daughter.. days start 6.30am .. I'm tired!

Deannarsidley1 Wed 28-Oct-15 12:15:43

Oh Marmight you made me laugh with your message, sounds as though you're having an absolutely lovely time and enjoying every minute with your family. I've got a dlg who is extremely noisy, but so funny, my dlg is the complete opposite to her cousin, they're both two, but love having them.

ann1e53 Wed 28-Oct-15 11:40:42

Hahaha yes, you've got it in a nutshell tigger. I have my2 grandchildren staying with me at the moment. It's great! Noisy and hectic but great fun. To add to the fun the 7 year old had a bad nosebleed this morning. Just finished mopping up the blood!

tigger Wed 28-Oct-15 11:22:41

Nice to see them come.............nice to see them go..........

Iam64 Wed 28-Oct-15 08:36:31

You'll survive Galen, you're made of stern and positive stuff. I always imagine your dgd as very like you smile

Grandma2213 Wed 28-Oct-15 01:00:20

I have 3 DGC every weekend for 3 to 4 days as their Dad lives with me. The other two DGDs also visit Saturdays and/or Sundays. Now they are older 8, 6 and 3 there is less actual screaming (mostly from the girls) as I told them it was banned! It has taken a while!

This seems to have been replaced by singing? pop songs. It is hard to know if the songs have no real tunes to start with or my DGDs are tone deaf!

As they talk at the highest volume I frequently remind them (quietly) that I am standing right next to them

I usually have 3 days off but most of these are taken up with washing, clearing toys, finding missing clothes, cleaning and shopping ready for the next onslaught.

And I used to think 'when I retire.....' How wrong was I!

apricot Tue 27-Oct-15 18:38:17

I am left exhausted after a day with small grandchildren's whirlwind activity and deafening shouting. When the ones who live further away come to stay they are up until my bedtime and beyond.
I don't complain, that's how children are meant to be and I can enjoy the peace and quiet when they've gone.

Elrel Tue 27-Oct-15 18:02:48

It's only a few disrupted days. Try going to bed early, getting up when your granddaughters do and enjoying being with them in the mornings.
You could look at books with them, speaking very quietly. Try a glove puppet or soft toy which is very shy and prefers a quiet atmosphere. Even try the perfidious, 'Granny can't hear you when you shout!' - it has been known to work!!
Just a few thoughts on things which worked for me. Good luck!

Anne58 Tue 27-Oct-15 17:42:15

I too can't bear the shrieking, a friend came to stay years ago with her son and daughter who both did it, I was just so glad that neither of my two boys did.

Galen my grandson was also born on Halloween, we should have known...........thlgrin

He will be 7 this year, or is it 8? thlconfused

Nonnie Tue 27-Oct-15 15:19:47

I am envious. I would love to see more of my DGC but because of distance and another reason it is less than I would like

Luckygirl Tue 27-Oct-15 14:39:06

Galen - it is a laxative manufactured by Galen.

Greyduster Tue 27-Oct-15 14:02:01

My eight year old grandson has just departed after staying here since Sunday. He is a one man noise machine; throw grandad into the mix and it is enough to send you doolally! We went swimming yesterday and this morning DH couldn't hear a thing because of waterlogged ears, so they were shouting at each other across the Today programme with the sound turned up. We have also had some extremely noisy games of ludo. Now he's gone home it is - to quote the words of a song from My Fair Lady - as quiet as an undiscovered tomb! And gosh, we do miss him!

Marmight Tue 27-Oct-15 12:38:32

I am spending this week in a small holiday 'chalet' with 2 DDs, 2 SiLs and 4GCs (5, 4 3 & 3) and it is noisy and cramped and wet and messy,but it is fun. None of them appear to do anything they are told; one managed to fall right on top of the only cow pat in sight and another went paddling in the sea and got soaked from head to foot; just waiting for the next crisis! It will only last until Saturday when I can go home and relish the peace and quiet and remove the ear plugs until the next time. It's all or nothing .........

Galen Tue 27-Oct-15 12:17:06

? [thiconfused]

Luckygirl Tue 27-Oct-15 11:20:23

Galen - I have just seen your name immortalised on my OH's Laxido box - such fame!