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Birthday present

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seasider Sun 06-Mar-16 08:19:11

I am the main present buyer in our household . I put a lot of thought into finding gifts I hope people will like. DP is a rubbish present buyer and struggles for inspiration. I thought I would make it easier for him and said this year I would like a pedicure before we go away next month. DP said to let him.know when I was going and he would pay for it. He even remarked that it was less than he usually spends. It was my birthday yesterday and I was disappointed he did not buy even a tiny gift to wrap up. He said he did not have time though he passes a huge 24 hour Tesco on his way home and we live a 10 minute walk from a retail park! By comparison 13 year old DS, who has recently started a job as a paperboy, went to the shops and bought and wrapped his own gifts for me. DP told him he had to use his own money this time ! I am wrong to be annoyed at his lack of effort?

seasider Sun 06-Mar-16 08:24:06

Oops don't know what happened there!blush

M0nica Sun 06-Mar-16 10:08:56

Has he always been like this? If so, surely you must be used to it. If he has only recently been so unbothered by it, I would be upset.

My DH, generally, is not a card or present giver, his family just about did Christmas presents and that was that. Mine were similar. If you come from a family where presents, cards and celebrations of life events are the norm it must be difficult to be married to someone from the opposite tradition but I do not think that shows he doesn't care, just that this manner of showing he cares doesn't include making an accasion about these specific events.

grannylyn65 Tue 08-Mar-16 17:10:58

Why are there multiple posts on this?

FarNorth Tue 08-Mar-16 17:21:19

I think he took it literally that the pedicure was to be your present, end of story.

When you asked, he said he didn't have time as he didn't want to let on that it hadn't crossed his mind to get you anything else.

Not thoughtless, just pedicure = present = job done.