Patronising or what?

IMHO, I cannot get worked up regarding being addressed politely (regardless of the words used)...

'Atishoo!

It's nothing to do with PC-ness. It's a twee expression which shouldn't be used to or about anyone, IMO! 'Bless you' is different entirely.

Ah bless you all...still able to get worked up at your age

Oh please there is so much happening in the world I really can't get worked up about a patronising comment. PC is overtaking common sense

It's nothing to do with either Political Correctness and there's certainly no 'common sense' being involved.

I don't wish to be metaphorically patted on the head just because I may be entitled to a bus pass. I still have all my faculties and I can manage to tie my own shoelaces unaided.

I am as sick to the back teeth of ageism as much as I am to all the other -isms out there.

If there was a 'like' button on your post I'd use it ChristineFrance

I hope you give them that kind of retort, jings. It might mean they don't patronise the next old lady because you made them think about what they're saying and the impression they're giving.

No. It feels horrible to be treated in a patronising manner. In the end you give up and just let it happen. And that's not good.

When the waiter directs every enquiry or comment to one of your adult children, and then looks faintly surprised when you are the one producing the plastic when the bill come round. And when they ask, "Is this your card?" "No, it's my daughter's and she's letting me play at being the Mummy".

Grrr!

Oh please there is so much happening in the world I really can't get worked up about a patronising comment. PC is overtaking common sense

It's like sales peoplle who stop you in the street and say 'Excuse me young lady'. I am obviously not a young lady, it's patronising. They think they are giving you a compliment, they are not beint intentionally offensive.!

Lol Elegran with my knees just a nudge should send me flying

It was patronising. We simply get older. We don't become little children needing to be petted, and patted on the head.

She was being ignorant.

My aim isn't very good, NanaandGrampy and I can't put a lot of power behind a punch! Can I step on your toes or kick you in the shins instead?

I'll try not to stand close enough to you Elegran to get my nose punched then!!

Well said ELegran ,I find those comments very patronising, and inappropriate at any time when aimed at anyone over 5.

Absolutely agree with you Elegran. 'Bless' is a horrible, patronising expression IMO.

No kind of ism is acceptable,I could scream when I here an older person referred to as Dinasour.

If I say "bless his cotton socks" about anyone over the age to start school I am being ironic or sarcastic, and I never the use the term "Oh bless!" about anyone at all whatever their age, because it always sounds patronising to me, implying an old twit who has no idea that he or she is making an idiot of themselves. I would certainly never use it about an old person - even if they were senile and into their second childhood.

If I heard someone use it about me I would ask who sneezed! That is if I could restrain myself from punching them in the nose and then saying "Oh I'm sorry, I thought you were the chap in a white coat from the nursing home, who wants me to take the little green and white pills when I'd rather get on with my memoirs of my fifty years as a nuclear scientist." (or whatever genuine career you would like to fill in here)

last year I had my nails done at a local salon, and the manicurist said 'aww bless' to me....now I know I must look old!

Actually jane I would . I apply it to the situation as much as the person.

I can't say I agree with you Monica* but perhaps it's because it's a common phrase in the area that I live.

Whenever I have heard anyone so 'Oh bless' about an older person, it has always been said in a patronising voice.

But n&g you wouldn't say 'bless his cotton socks' about anyone over the age of 5, would you?
That's the point!

I'm going to fly in the face of the common thread here. I say 'oh bless' hopefully not in a patronising way but in the same way as I might say ' oh love him' . It's meant as a term of affection and love.

Just like my Gran would have said ' bless his cotton socks' .

Sorry all, but in a world stuffed with political correctness I really can't get my head round the harm from this phrase .

If all of us (including Gransnetters) treated all people of all ages as equal and while deploring the patronising remarks of the presenter, otherwise completely ignore the age of the person involved. He should be treated as, and responded to in the same way we would respond to anyone else on a tv programme, including the under 10s.

X posts, cookynan