Pensioner on a train

True Ana

Yes, but unlike the boy in the report, we would undoubtedly have whipped our feet off sharpish if an adult had told us to!

The youngsters may have responsible parents, when a group that age get together not at all unusual for them to do what they shouldn't

I was at one time a cub mistress so boys the same age as the boys on the train ,knew all the parents , there were times I thought I was entering a world of 'Lord of the Flies'

Did no one here do things they were taught not to do? I did

"dirty litttle feet" I wouldn't sit down on the ground where those feet had been walking, so I don't like the thought of sitting on the seat where they have been parked.

What the man did was wrong. But, Gononsuch What would YOU have done in the situation? First asked the child to remove his feet from the seat, obviously. I don't know whether other seats were available, but assuming they were not, then do feet qualify for a seat when someone has to stand? And even if there WERE other seats available, then they should not have been on a seat in the seat at all, and I imagine there was a notice somewhere saying so.

Then what? When he refused to move them, would you have walked away meekly?

It would be very useful to know just how to go about sharing public transport amicably with a spoilt and child.

Blooming right DaphneBoon

Thank goodness they were "savoury" crisps, Blue Belle you wouldn't want to risk "unsavoury" ones!!

I love the " We never travel on public transport because of unsavoury things that happen" some of us have no choice and I don't meet too many unsavoury things happening, I usually find someone to chat to which passes the time away enormously, last time I was on a train journey I met a lady equestrian and a postman we exchanged lots of info, saw pictures of new babies, shared crisps ( they were savoury ones) and generally enjoyed the journey

To be honest I don't see why you would query the parents skill did your children or grandchildren never to anything unsociable when out of your eyeline Although I totally agree putting your feet on the seat is not a decent thing to do its not actually the crime if the century and look how rumours fly they have now become "dirty little feet" yet there is nothing in the write up to suggest they were dirty I can't imagine they were that horrendous children or a nearby woman wouldn't have tried to protect them as is reported

we also have a very good relationship one that's got love and kindness and understanding. Not every one has, hows your sister

Not sure
1) who this is addressed to (if me, Maggie is braw thanks, awa at the but n'ben wi' the bairns)
Or indeed
2) what this has to do with anything?

Of course the man shouldn't have put his hands on the boy but the boys were out of order and I do question the parenting skills of their parents, why did they not teach their children good manners? Are the parents suitable ashamed of the actions of their children or are they wallowing in the publicity proclaiming their children are little angels who never do anything wrong.

No you don't accept it Elegran but there are ways of dealing with it and manhandling a young lad is not one of them it will only get you into trouble and make them more determined to annoy... I always remember an old proverb about the east and west wind having an argument about who could make the man take his coat off The east wind just blew stronger and harder in an effort to get it off but the man just pulled his coat around him tighter The west wind went to a breeze and let the sun shine through and the man got too warm and took his coat off

Works in real life too

Lucky you, having a car. Many of us have no choice between public or private transport, it is public or walk. Should we also have no choice but to accept the behaviour of Little Emperors who have never been taught that there are other people in the world besides them?

Public transport is for all, not just for selfish little **s who put their dirty feet on the seats and keep someone else from sitting down.

Bring back conductors and guards.

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Dreadful reaction, most kids will respond if spoken nicely too if they don't then you tell a guard, if no guard you move. You cannot reprimand anyone physically
Hostility breeds anger the boys have won full stop

Hear, hear Penstemmon!
Unfortunately most of do have to use public transport, gononsuch especially if it is the chauffeur's day off or the Learjet is in for its MOT

I would have thought after Jo Cox that you don't interfere.
We never travel on public transport because of the unsavory things that happen.
That poor pensioner was in the wrong or was he just a bully and picked on them because he could.

I have made it clear I do not think the man should have armlocked the kid.. if he had hurt him it would have been worse for him as well as the kid. But I would like to see the press state clearly that the boys were in the wrong and should have responded to a reasonable request from a member of the public to behave. Otherwise this does lead to some kids feeling they can do what they want.

I don't think many people would condone him assaulting a child.

But I tend to agree with you Pestemmon that the boys - and other passengers - were at fault too. I find it disappointing that young boys could be so defiant and cheeky to an elderly man without other passengers coming to his support.

Bet he wouldn't have tackled a football hooligan.

He must have wrenched the arm back forcefully for the boy to be in that position. And it does look only a very little arm!

I don't know when or why we became a society that does not take communal responsibility for each other..either to protect or to chastise (verbally). We (as a society) have allowed individuals and groups to think they are untouchable because we won't voice our disapproval. This results in some youngsters not responding to reasonable requests to 'rein it in' when larking about gets a bit out of hand.

There are very few trains with guards any more.

So if someone's behaving inappropriately, what do you do?

Precious snowflakes of any age or sex are allowed to put feet on seats, break trays, swear at people, spit, etc? Act aggressively or be racist?

Would you support the man in question so it didn't go so far as he went (and the boy didn't appear to be hurt). Or would you just stand back?

The boy could have been badly hurt by a man in a rage attacking him and twisting his arm.
There is no excuse to react like that, however irritating the boys were being.

I get exactly where you're coming from, pen. The man's best approach might have been to sit on the seat opposite the boy whose arm he twisted — non-violet, direct, and hopefully effective, action.

As I said before I would not condone the man's action but no other passengers appeared to support him in asking the kids to get feet off the seats or to stop him touching the boys! Now the press have forgotten that the boys should have just put their feet down when asked. None of the witnesses, as far as I can see, suggested the man asked the boys inappropriately. What are the boys learning from the press response? It's OK to break social rules & to rile people into losing their rag! When you see 18-13 year olds with their feet on seats, swearing etc. what do you think?

Totally agree with Anniebach
Two wrongs do not make a right
Children were misbehaving
Man broke the law.