Party Invitation

dont feel silly, the fact that your son has a disability makes it more understandable that you will be disappointed that he hasnt been included in the invitation. i dont suppose anyone who responded knew that and it does change the situation somewhat. good luck with whatever you decide to do.

I hadn't posted you've made me feel silly for being bothered.

As I posted at 00.24 he hasn't said he wanted to go but I think he was a bit put out. It's hard to tell as he has ASD .
It is me that's most bothered. Probably because I feel sorry for him as he has no friends and doesn't go out at all except to a weekly computer course.
Wish I posted you've made me feel silly.

nina I know what you mean, but think he wouldn't want to go anyway ( old dudes!)

hmmmm i would feel a little like the OP actually despite understanding about numbers and cost and evberything.

But then my immediate family is close . I have a big party coming up in Sept and not only have I invited my brother and sisters but their kids and grandkids even though I know some will politely decline ( because of distance) .

Its a family party so they all get invited. Im sure he'll mind less than you Nina but one in all in I say

Yes I agree BlueBell, it's a party for older folks, I am sure this was the thought of the hosts. Your son has his own life and friends.

I don't think living under the same roof has anything to do with it it s a 60 year olds party
I personally can't really see where thev logic of living conditions come into the equations at all
Does your son feel upset or left out ? if not no point in even worrying about it
If when you get there a lot of other young family members are included then is the time to feel put out
If your son was invited to a young cousins party would you and your husband expect to be invited too ?

Don't get all of a doo dah about it, in the grand scheme of things, does It really matter?

Have you asked your son if he actually wants to go??

I didn't say he wanted to go.
H and I just thought it a bit rude when he lives under the same roof not to include him. I wouldn't ring her and ask her to include him as I feel that would be out of order.
It's obviously just me and H that feel this way.

Are you sure he WANTS to go? Better check before taking any action!

Well I'd also be a bit meh, its family.

It may be an oversight and as other posters have said, she may not have thought he'd want to go.

Give her a call and say he'd like to go.

How on earth did dil become fill!

I'm sorry but I don't think they have been that unreasonable. She has invited her brother who she was brought up with and, of course, you are on the guest list as you are her brother's wife. Similarly, her son and fill will be there as she gave birth to him and he is as special to her as your son obviously is to you. Please don't feel offended by her actions, I'm sure non were intended.

Unless they are particularly close then yes I think you are. My adult children would look on it as a lucky escape to be left out. Maybe our family aren't particularly close with Aunts and Uncles.

she doesn't act 60 and I don't doubt her S and DiL will be there.
phoenix would have been nice if he'd had the option though.
Maybe I am BU

Especially if they are only inviting "old people".

Perhaps they thought it might not be his sort of thing?