What to call your new family certainly feels awkward to begin with and is a very individual thing. The examples you give Grammy6 are how I would expect to be addressed in the presence of the children and if they are included in the conversations.
My DH never did call my mother anything at all ever and used to really put himself through the wringer over his total instability to call her anything or work out what to call her except Granny once the children came along. He was always sorry about it but couldn't bring himself to call her Mum as that was his own mother's title and he wouldn't call her what I did which was Mummy - and since she never invited or told him to call her anything at all then he didn't! Neither did my father but that was a different ballgame. I made myself call my new MIL Mum and it soon became quite natural but I must admit that in the beginning it was hard to do it.
DS has a very diminutive MIL and he won't call her Mum because I am Mum and obviously unique and special at least to him . He calls her Mummy as his wife does because that is who she is! On the QT he is not exactly a fan of hers so I think it particularly gallant of him to do so although it looks and sounds very strange for such a tall man to call her that.
Once married, DIL really struggled with calling us anything to start with because she used to call us by our Christian names long before she met and married our son and it no longer felt right. I told her about DH and his own regrets and advised her to just break the sound barrier with Mum and Dad when she was ready and eventually she did thankfully. Perhaps you could try something similar Grammy6.
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