Gosh, reading this has made me appreciate how lucky I am. I don't think anyone is being unreasonable expecting their partner to share the chores. I can imagine the niggling resentment if you have to do the lion's share of work around the house because the other is oblivious to work that needs to be done or just plain lazy. My heart goes out to those who do have to do everything around the house because of the sickness or disability of their partner.
My partner is house trained. He was on his own with his children for years. The youngest was twelve when their mother died, so my man raised them and kept house. His hobby is gardening so he enjoys looking after the garden too. He cooks, shops, cleans and tidies. He is quite neat too, neater than I am!
I am being unreasonable probably in becoming irritated by some of his ways as I too kept house myself without much help from ex who preferred pub life to home life. I suspect I have a gem now, and must learn not to feel irritation silently simmering over his viewing habits, lack of sink and loo cleaning and incessant snoring at night! I too must drive him mad occasionally so I am glad we have a fairly roomy house so we can escape each other. I know my picking fault with OH because he doesn't do things 'properly' is unfair, so I say nothing and do things as I want them done later!
He is a star really, and I know I can rely on him to support me in our life together. I feel lucky to have him and after writing this I've resolved to tell him more often how much I appreciate his efforts.
I suppose in the scheme of things a few chores left undone isn't a big issue really. I say that because I am feeling a bit soppy now and suspect most of us would dearly miss our partners whether lazy, oblivious to chores or useful round the house if they were gone.
Some things matter more than others I suppose, and I probably need a different perspective now we're both pensioners.
Good Morning Friday 19th April 2024