Accused of being nosey

Maybe he was having a row/ had a bad day for some other reason and was acting out of character. If this was the case I would expect him to apologise when he's calmed down. If no apology is forthcoming I would just assume he is a rude person and keep my distance but say hello/good morning as usual.

Leave him to it.

Some people don't want to be observed however well meaning the observer is.

I live next door to people who go out of their way to be friendly and some days it gets right on my wick, they pop their head over the fence when I am in the back garden in my pyjamas, or just keep asking me how I am. They mean well and I am grateful but ggggggggggrrrrrrrrrr there are times when I feel like a bloody peep show.

Carry on being cheery but stay your side of the fence.

Don't apologise, he may well feel a chump and want to forget about it.

Let it go .... I definitely wouldn't go putting notes in the door or sending apologies Different folk, different ways whilst I can understand your concern it would take more than that for me to go and look... if I went to my neighbours eveytime I heard loud noises (or swearing) I would take up residency ?
He may never have lived in a neighbourly area ( I don't) he may have been pulling furniture around, hurt himself hence the yelling then saw you looking at him and had a very unneighbourly reaction
However if he has a wife or child and you heard screaming begging or crying then it IS always necessary to intervene

You may become good neighbours in time so just stay cool put it out your mind and see what happens next time you bump into him just act as you always would with a smile and a 'good morning'

I would put a note through his door to say how glad you are that he is clearly ok, that he is now living in a neighbourhood where it has been the custom to look out for each other, and therefore your actions are not nosiness but genuine caring and his mistaken view on the matter is most regrettable.

Your intentions were good, obviously, but he misunderstood. He may be a very private person - or just a grump. And he probably didn't make the connection in his mind between the noise and the absent car.

I wouldn't go out of my way to apologize to him. Your heart doesn't seem to be in it, and he may just take it as you "intruding" on his privacy again. Besides, you already explained your intentions. Either he gets it or he doesn't.
Maybe if you run into him you can apologize for this misunderstanding. But I don't think you should go to his house to do it.

Also, in the future, I wouldn't concern myself with his home or his wellbeing, unless something clearly bad is happening right in front of you. Imo, you should look out for your other neighbors, as ever, but not so much for him unless he says sorry for his rude reaction. Either he had an "off" day or he just doesn't appreciate it.

I would file the incident to my brain and go on nice as always. Saying 'good morning' would be lovely. And I would watch and listen, just in case he was up to no good.

I can see it from both sides.

Of course you were concerned, and rightly so, but if your neighbour was having a private rant to himself about something or other, the last think he'd want is an audience!

I would have done exactly the same as you and I wouldn't apologise. I would shout good morning/afternoon or hallo next time I saw him as if nothing had happened.

@ Lynda you seem to be expecting more of your neighbour than he is willing to give.

You are a longtime resident and sorry there are no rules in sharing. IE parking cars, helping neighbours etc.

The times they are a changing

Think of selfish drivers/ cyclists / pedestrians.

Sorry to say this but its true, would the word MAN ring a bell!

Oh we crossed posts there - no I would wait for him to approach you.....

Yes, that's exactly what I was looking out for judypark! And quite honestly I'd hope my neighbours would equally keep an eye out for my house if I wasn't likely in. He was very rude though. I'm tempted to go apologise just to keep things civil although really I think the apology should be from him. Should I go over do you think?

How horrible for you, wonder if he/she might apologise at some point.......

I would have done exactly the same thing as you Lynda, in fact being nosey earlier this year I disturbed a burglar who had forced my neighbours back door open, he fled empty handed.
I would ignore your rude neighbour. I wonder what he was doing that he didn't want you to see or is he normally so hostile?

I guess if they were having an argument your neighbour wasn't in the best of moods.