To be unable to give to food banks.

Well Gmelon , I’m stunned to think that those poor children weren’t taken to a place of safety. I thought that was what social services were there for?

The plan was to help her manage better.

It sounds unreasonable to us but children are deemed to always be best at home, no matter what the home.
Apart from circumstances of physical/sexual abuse.

Well as the teenager is now with a drug dealer something isn’t working. We seem to have gone from one extreme, where Social services swooped in to take the children, to now being afraid to do it.
However, I will still give to Food Banks in the hope that the family you posted about aren’t typical.

How did you know this woman, gmelon?

If the foodbanks she accessed were those of the Trussell Trust, she wouldn’t have been able to obtain from more than one at a time. They monitor quite closely those clients who need the help, and require vouchers from Social Services, GP’s, etc.

Yes, I thought they needed vouchers from Social Services or the GP.
I wonder how she got round the system?

Whilst this woman has duped the system in a very bad way, I feel that we should still give what we feel able so that at least children get food.

I think that this lady would be a rare case. I regularly give to food banks and wouldn’t allow one isolated case stop me. Too many folk in need out there.

I fear that the food banks are being abused. In 2014 I completed the training to become a volounteer for the CAB. During the lesson on referring people to food banks we were warned about the way the system was being abused. There was a supermarket next door and we were told by the trainer that we would see people outside offering items for sale to shoppers as they entered the supermarket. These items had been obtained from the food bank and the recipients wanted cash. Everyone knows the system is abused by some recipients but equally it is a lifeline for some.

We have to accept some will abuse the system , always has been so, always will, this should not stop us caring for those in need.

I had a slightly similar experience once when I met a teenager who lived in the local orphanage. Every Easter the local branch of the bank had a trolly for people to donate Easter Eggs for the children. She told me they had 30 eggs each! It's sometimes hard to know what to do for the best when donating.

Exactly annie - you said it before me.

I couldn’t agree more annie, we give to the food bank every week, if 50%of it goes to the people who need it that’s a good enough reason. I can’t bear to think of hungry children.

She had various food banks she used.
Through Churches and also voucher given through the school arranging it.

I agree Annie. There will always people who abuse the system, but genuine cases should suffer because of them.

Sorry
a voucher given on a limited basis after the school stepped in.

That was meant to be "SHOULDN'T."

Thank you for the replies.
You would be surprised how persuasive some people can be,the Churches would rarely turn down a tearful mother with a baby in tow.

However.
It will now be easier for me to see that genuine people are being helped and that is what matters.

I couldn't get the image of her out of my head every time I saw a food bank .

It did not sit well with me that I wasn't contributing and that is why I put the situation on here.

cornergran Your point rang home with me, if only 50% of the food is helping genuine clients then of course it is worth doing.

There will always be people who abuse the system but that should not stop us behaving / giving generously

gmelon Do you know of any organisation helping the needy that can absolutely guarantee to be able never under any circumstances to give help to any but the deserving poor? I certainly don't. If such an organisation existed it would end up having to refuse to help many who were desperately in need because they could not be 101% sure that they were pure and clean and would not let a pennies worth of what they are given go to anyone unworthy.

We are all human, prone to error and some money we donate to charity will be misused, but while I know that each organisation does its best to ensure help is properly applied, I, for one will keep giving.

monica
I know of no such guarantee, an impossibility of course.

I seem to have developed this block with the food bank although I give regularly and as generously as I can to Shelter throughout the year and at Christmas also I encourage friends and relatives to donate to "Crisis at Christmas" paying for a Christmas meal and healthcare etc over the Christmas period.

I've got no misconceptions that everyone being aided by Shelter is an angel down on their luck and it matters not one jot to me.

I have even managed to persuade others that the availability of just one hot meal a day is a neccessity in life for everyone no matter their personal background or lifestyle.

We can learn a lot from the Sikh beliefs. They feed allcomers at their temple , no questions asked.

It was this food bank issue because I have seen it taken such advantage of.
Now I have more positive thoughts about giving.